(Closed) I'm just not that fussed!!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

Girl, have you been to a A Practical Wedding yet? or Offbeat Bride? Those two blogs are speaking your language, so to speak. 

There are many different kinds of weddings. I think it’s so important to do what honors you both as a couple, and not just what people expect. It’s totally possible to have a wedding that speaks to you and your FI and is also enjoyable for your guests to attend and share with you.

P.S – I went to a vegan wedding last summer, and it was freakin delicious!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

First of all I am financial stable and already own my own house so don’t assume people who pick out their venues and have the big party are blowing their house deposits.

My advice to you is if your idea of a wedding is small intimate and with an afternoon tea then go for it, no need to pass judgements or compare and contrast your day to other peoples.

Anytime you do something out of the norm a few people will grumble about it, but as long as you have a good atmosphere and refreshments the guest have nothing to complain about.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

 

@waif:  Not all weddings are like you’re describing, you can make it whatever you do or don’t want.

@TwoCityBride:  +1

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it’s fine that you don’t want the “typical” wedding, but you don’t have to be so judgemental of those that do.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

If you don’t want a wedding then don’t have a wedding, just get married. If you hate the fuss and bother and expense just elope.

Post # 9
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846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

first of all, i am having a larger wedding (150 people), but i am not making a “fuss” over it. i’m not “showing off” or anything like that. our wedding is going to be exactly the way we want it- a casual celebration of the love between my FI and i. yes, we will have a photographer, a cake, bridesmaids, dancing and drinking, but that is what we want with our closest family and friends.

also, we are paying for the wedding ourselves and have been saving for the last two years, so we have enough for both a wedding and a down payment on a house.  i think it’s rude to assume all people who have a “big party” are not financially responsible.

anyway, my advice to you is just to do whatever you want. all you need for a wedding is two people and marriage certificate- everything else is just extras. there are many people who are happy with a registry office, immediate family and a nice afternoon tea afterwards.

word to the wise though: don’t be so judgemental about people who have a “typical” wedding if you don’t want people to be judgemental about the kind of wedding you want.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If people are “offended” by a small wedding, I wouldn’t lose sleep over it. It is their choice to be offended and we can’t control how other people respond.

We aren’t talking racism or religious prosecution where something one did or said could be truly offensive. We are talking making different choices for a wedding.

You can’t control what others do or how they respond, but you can control your own reaction. Just make a conscious decision to not let them push your buttons and have the wedding you want.

The people wo love you and support your marriage will get over it if they don’t agree with your decisions.

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee

You could always have a low-key affair and not tell anyone (except the people invited, of course) until afterwards.

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