(Closed) I'm just so done.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

My heart really goes out to you.  Situations like these are tough and draining for me because of the drama involved but more importantly because there is nothing that can be done to fix it.  I HATE situations where it is impossible to reason with someone, or to come to a compromise, or to get others to understand a situation, and as such cannot make everything better.

The best piece of (unsolicited) advice I can give you is to just worry about yourself and those who care about you.  My husband’s family made our lives miserable throughout our wedding planning – it was mostly his mother and as DH likes to say, “Reality is an option for her”.  The drama and relationship struggles and the fact that it was all out of my control (’cause Lord knows I can’t control what they did or said) ate me alive.  It even affected me after the wedding.  At some point I simply had enough of it all.  I stopped engaging (and more importantly, catering to) the people who were making life miserable, I focused on myself and my husband and those who loved us and were supportive of us.

Hang in there – I hope this situation either gets better for you or, at the very least, you don’t feel the effects of it as strongly.  🙂

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Oh darlin’, I’m right there with you when it comes to the parties.  Any time I know that we’re going to meet up with DH’s family I stress and end up with terrible heartburn that starts a few days before the event and lasts a few days after.

Maybe the birthday dinner will turn out alright.  You and your siblings can treat your grandmother and cousin with courtsey and some kindness without being all up in their business and super mushy.  I hate taking the high road in situations like these but I suck it up and do it because it’s the best thing to do (annnnnd later on I think of snappy zingers that I could have dealt out and subsequently feel witty and a little better). 

What do your siblings thing of the situation and how do they want to deal with it?

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