- 5 years ago
So, FI and I manage fairly well on our combined salary. We do alright, and will be buying a house in the next few months. We’re paying for our honeymoon, and my parents are paying for the wedding.
I’m already under a LOT of stress, trying to plan this whole wedding by myself (for the most part). And FI’s brother is about to make me lose my mind.
I don’t like him. I can’t help that. He has a master’s degree, and therefore feels superior to FI and myself and makes it obvious. He constantly downs FI, and though FI acts like it doesn’t bother him, I can tell that it does. FI doesn’t have a degree, but does have a full time job that he busts his tail over to provide for us.
So, why on earth does his brother (who makes 3x what FI does now) stay with us every weekend, eat our food, make unruly (and unjust) demands, and judge us?
He made FI clean the entire house 2 hours prior to friends visting, and then they sat outside all damn night. They didn’t come inside once.
He told FI he wanted a new xbox for his birthday (mind you, this is a man who can buy his own xbox with one paycheck and still be well off), causing FI to have to struggle to save money for it. What is he getting FI for his birthday? Nothing.
FI bought his mom’s bday present this year. FI’s brother got her nothing.
And FI’s brother is the ‘golden’ child.
Oh my god, it just irks my nerves so badly. FI needs to be saving for our honeymoon and down payment, NOT having to worry about getting his little brother an xbox and paying for his car repairs.
My FI is the most humble guy you will ever meet. Every weekend on his days off, he visits his grandmother and helps with repairs there, helps his disabled parents, and helps MY parents when they need it. He asks nothing in return and doesn’t complain about it. He deserves to be treated like he is very important to them, insetad of just their fix-it boy! (My parents do treat him like he is wonderful; they adore him and appreciate all he does.)
I’m almost in tears. I have been financially responsible for myself since I was 15. FI has been on his own for almost 10 years now. We make it, and we make it without having to stress too much….until 400 dollars is gone each month on his brother.
I’m sorry I’m venting. I’ve tried talking to FI about this and he just says, “Well he’s my brother…I don’t know…I have to..” He’s very, very nonconfrontational and subdued so I know he won’t say anything to his brother.
However, I would. If his brother even talked to me. But he doesn’t.
Sorry I’m venting….I’m just so stressed out right now. Thanks for letting me have a moment.
(P.S. I was going to go anonymous for this, since FI sometimes looks at my WB, but I decided not to. I doubt he’ll see this but I kind of wish he would.) I’m sure I slaughtered my grammar by the way; I’m sorry, I usually write very well but I’m having anxiety attacks thinking about this.