(Closed) I'm kind of worried… (wedding)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You got plenty of time!

Start by setting an official date!

Hugs to you

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@sherryberry:  That is more than enough time to plan a beautiful wedding 🙂 Our big wedding (and “fancy” by local standards) was planned in less than 10 months (and I was in graduate school, finishing my Masters degree, and working 20 hours a week). My suggestion is to make a timeline, or find one on-line, and see the things you need to take care of soon, and those you can put off for awhile. But first, just breathe, you have plenty of time. 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@sherryberry:  We planned our wedding in pretty much the exact amount of time.  When I first started, I found a venue we both loved and booked it.  The venue made the food, drinks, etc.  It helps that you don’t need to find anything else beyond that at the venue.  My planning went from there…the next thing I found was an inspiration picture online and started finding all my decor.  That picture I found literally shaped the entire wedding.

Don’t worry!  You CAN do it in that amount of time!  I felt the exact same way about my husband.  I would have gotten married a month after we were engaged if everyone could have been there.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sherryberry:  

You can do this. I got engaged in early Feb. We picked our date in late March. We’re getting married next weekend. 

Get a good bridal magazine that has planning tips, maybe even a wedding planner notebook. Start by crossing of everything that isn’t important to you. Then pick a date. Then pick a venue. And you’re off!

 

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sherryberry:  I’d say put a link to a website with info on it, and then let them worry about who to bunk with. All you need to do is provide the most basic information (and you don’t even NEED to do that).

Then on your website you can also have registry info and any other info you’d care to provide. We had some info on recommended sights/restaurants in the area, what airports we recommended flying into, how to get to the area if you didn’t want to rent a car, etc. But then again we’re travel nuts so putting that together was pretty easy for us.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Frog E.:  I agree.

I found theknot.com very helpful for planning and for the website. Warning, when you first go on and see the checklist, it can be really overwhelming, but after you delete all the stuff that doesn’t apply to you, and all the things that are repeated, it’s very workable. 

The website has been great for us, esp. the page for accommodations and the registry page.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@sherryberry:  omg, you have tons of time.  i planned our whole wedding in 5 months from out of the country.  trust me, it can be done.  get a checklist and follow it.  this is a good site for checklists.  don’t worry if it says 12 months, etc.  just get those ones checked off right away.  once you start checking things off, you will feel good.

http://www.russellandhazel.com/content/wedding-templates

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You got this!!! I felt exactly how you felt a year ago and Now I am 6 days till my wedding and everything I though was impossible is turning out. Don’t worry but don’t waste anytime.  First things first set a solid date and start telling people what it is.  It makes it harder for you to back out of planning once a date is set.  Set up a free account on theknot.com if you do not already have one.  They have great tools that keep you on track and on budget.  Decide realistically what your budget is between you and FI and plug that number into their wedding budgeter tool on the knot.  This will help you realize every little detail your money needs to cover.  The site will give you this awesome checklist of things you need to do at this time and at every time of the planning with alarms when you are passed due on tasks.  Start shopping for a dress now if you haven’t because they can take around 6 months to make and then you want time for alterations.  If you cannot afford a super expensive dress try a website where brides sell dresses they have already worn or perhaps buy a sample.  It sounds like you don’t have too much of a catering budget if your mom suggested a potluck.  An alternative that isn’t quite so crappy is renting out you and your FI’s favorite restaurant and keeping the event small.  A lot of restaurants will cater in their space for half the price of traditional catering because their staff and kitchen is right there.  Plus then you don’t have to order rentals which anyone will tell you is the real reason catering gets so expensive.  Even if you guys had a backyard wedding you would still spend $1000 for chairs and tables, linens and barware for a group of only 100 or so.  Decide what details re essential or most important to both of you.  FI wanted to splurge on food and I wanted to splurge on live music. So we decided to have a super cheap venue and fairly crappy photography because we didn’t care so much abut those things.  Compromise is important to get the wedding off the ground.  Hope this all helps.  Good luck. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

This may seem obvious, but be sure you know your TOTAL available maximum budget before your sign ANY contracts. You don’t want to find yourself “venue poor” and unable to afford one or more of your essential categories.

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