Post # 1
Welp– after several posts and house hunting for the past 3-4 months.. DH and I have decided to put those on hold for now until we know more about his job situation and the potential of relocation.
I’m le sad.
I really wanted to be homeowners. Unfortunately– we didn’t find anything we had to have and DH was kind of so/so about it. I kind of feel like you BOTH need to totally on the same page when it comes to this! So after much debate and deliberation, it looks like we will be apartment dwellers for at least 6 months-1 year when our lease is up, depending on his job.
Boo. We have awful neighbors so I think they’re counting down us leaving as much as we were! The bright side is:
– no lawn to mow!
– no new neighbors to piss off!
– no hassle of packing/ unpacking.
Oh well– maybe next year 🙁
Post # 3
Amen to your bright side! I was so excited to move into our house and… sheesh… now we have the neighbor’s dogs barking endlessly right next to our bedroom window, my husband looks so sad when it’s time to mow again, we’ve repaired the fence three times in three years, and the dogs already ruined the carpet (hmmm, flooring change? 😉
I secretly miss the cozy feel of our old apartment~ even the music our neighbor’s played was soothing! Ah, well. All things happen in their own time, at the right time!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
It sucks having to put things on hold, but it will work out for the best. We took a pause in our search to focus on the wedding and handle some family issues that were going on at that time. It was a huge disappointment, but it was the best thing for us. The pause gave us time to think even more about the houses we had seen, what was really best for our family, and what we really wanted out of a neighborhood/house. We ended up going in a different direction when we started actively looking again. We changed agents, changed neighborhoods, and changed our outlook on things. The pause taught us that taking a break isn’t failure, it’s smart planning. And smart planning pays off in the end. 🙂
Post # 5
I’m sorry you had to put things off, but maybe you can use this time to start getting rid of things (selling, donating, trashing, fixing) that you don’t want making future plans easier. It will at least give you something else to concentrate on, and you don’t have a time constraint.
Post # 6
Y’all are right! I’m just enjoying my pity party haha.
My biggest concern is our dog. We looked a lot of houses with him in mind ( flooring, fence, large room like a utility room that could also be his).
DH is right, though. No need to buy if there’s a chance we may have to sell again soon. Also- he doesn’t want a ” starter home” per se. He wants a 4br home with lots of space, acreage and bells and whistles because he doesn’t want to move or upgrade once we have kids.
Post # 7
@Mrs_Amanda: My husband thought the same way as yours. It’s been really fun to plan the kids rooms as we go! He took a while to come around when I told him might have to give up his “office” for a new baby~ “office” being that room he plays computer games in and has his concert posters on the wall.
Post # 8
@jjmomma: Oh yes! DH has grand plans for an office because he collects sports memorabilia and has Red Sox stuff up to his ears!
Ive found that most of our friends who are homeowners have started out ” small”. Well, small as in they plan to sell in the next 3-5 years as their families grow. Not DH! He wants to move and stay put so a lot of what we looked at just wasn’t ” us” or there were things we couldn’t overcome like lot size, structural issues and location ( specifically a school zone we want to be in).
I will say this about him– the man takes his time and thinks things through thoroughly before making decisions!
Post # 9
@Mrs_Amanda: Sounds like a good man! We lucked out when we found our home b/c they were planning to build a new school right up the street. My sister did the buy and sell thing, which worked well for them, but it was A LOT of moving along the way.
Post # 10
@jjmomma: Moving is the pits! I am very glad to have put that off, if only for a few more months!
Post # 11
I can make you feel better…my SO decided after our attorney review and home inspection that he is having second thoughts about getting the house or even being with me. How nice…It seems to be a pattern. no engagement, no more saving money for our future, no baby even after I went thru so much heartache and now doesn’t want to get a house and doesn’t know if he wants to be with me anymore. I gave him my heart and trust and he always manages to destroy it all. Its too long to explain but all I do is cry and cry. I have a hole in my heart. I guess it was part of the plan to jerk me around and pretend to love me. sorry for dumping but I needed to get it out. Pray for me…I need it. God give me strength.
Post # 12
Look on the brightside; its not in the cards for you to be a homeowner right now….
The problems we endured:
Being told a pergola had termites so we tore it down ourselves only to find out the termite inspectors were wrong.
Carpet was infested with fleas from the previous owner
Bathroom tiles leaked.
Plus a plethora of other problems the previous owner failed to mention in the disclosures. 3+ years after closing we’re still discovering problems left and right!!!
Post # 13
LOL! I have to mow the lawn tonight 🙁
DH and I bought a house about 16months before we got married (technically I bought it)… We LOVED it… And I’m near me extended family… Etc
But now that we are married we both really want to move closer to his family and to be honest the house is really the only reason we are stuck… I love it, but I wish we could pick it up and take it with us… Since we can’t, it’s been pretty frustrating… No we really have to wait another year or two before it would make financial sense to leave…
Plus, last Decembewere had a wind storm that took out our fence & roof… Insurance company’s are no fun -even the nice ones… And we have a room that mysteriously loses power… And the previous homeowners did a horrible DIY job on our deck which we were forced to replace… We are definately not making money off this haha!!!
Post # 14
@MySunshine: Oh man. My house is filled with weird DIY projects and terrible paint jobs, mysterious wiring situations, and just flat out WTFs. I feel ya!
I didn’t think home ownership would be super fun but I didn’ think I’d be so “meh” about it.
Post # 15
Y’all are definitely making me feel better!!