(Closed) I'm losing my mind waiting….

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee

It sounds like it’s coming at least by the end of the year!  I had a similar problem with my FI; I finally had to be really blunt and say “If we are going to get married by Sept. 2012, then we need to be engaged at minimum 1 year ahead of time because venues book up where we live over 1 year in advance.  I do NOT want to get married in 2013.” I don’t think he had actually realized how the wedding planning shebang worked.  Anyways, he proposed 2 weeks less than a year before we will marry.  

Once I had a timeline from him, I didn’t bring up proposing until the month before he proposed because he made it seem like he was going to propose on a trip and then he didn’t so I was piiiiissed.  Turned out he was working on having the ring made and it was taking longer than expected.  So from future you to present you, just don’t say anything!!  I would take a deep breath whenever I had the urge to say something and then-SO would say “are you ok?” and I would say “You don’t want me to talk about it.” and he knew.  That worked pretty well.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

@Sweetheartchic:  We didn’t tell anyone we were planning either, so I wouldn’t worry about that.  Well… I told my best friends, LOL.  

I also refused to live together before getting engaged, but in the middle of our “timeline towards engagement” we moved in together after 6.5 years of dating!  We got engaged 2 months after moving in together.  FI said that living together for that 2 months really cemented his decision to get engaged, so it wouldn’t be the worst thing to do…  But definitely only do it if you’re certain you will get engaged soon.

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