(Closed) I'm lost…just don't know what to do from here?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2743 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

I’m getting married in October and my theme isnt there yet in fact i just switched for the 4th time in 4 months! Of course though the date has stayed the same we’re finally firming up our choice for a location. As long as you know a color I think you’re good. Maybe start considering dresses, and flowers. Pick a theme that matches your venue.

Post # 4
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

I would start with the venue – what kind of bulding is it?

Romantic, country western, modern, castle-like?

Post # 5
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am a person who is a planner, want to get it done and out of the way. I say as for centerpieces, its not too early you may not like it the first time you try. As far as the little things I say do it and get it done. When it comes close to the wedding things will be hectic.

Post # 6
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Congrats! Sounds like u are already ahead of the game.  I’m also getting married in Sept and have booked the same things as you.  Also have my dress and shoes.  From what I hear, there usually is a rush of things when u first book stuff, then a little lull in between, and it’ll pick up again closer to the wedding. Right now, I am looking for DIY ring pillow ideas so I can take my mind off planning and do a little sewing/crafting.  I also booked my makeup artist so maybe you can also look for one.  Also, maybe if you find your bridesmaid dresses, that’ll help you narrow a theme.  My wedding will be at the beach and my girls will have flowy dresses.  Other than that, I don’t really have a concrete “theme” As long as your flowers, dress, invitations, etc all sort of match, I think you’ll be fine.  Oh yea, and you should prob start compiling your guestlist.  That’s pretty time consuming.  I started 2 months ago and I’m still working on it!

Post # 8
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

First off congratulations! I recently got engaged and my wedding is next June. I’m really getting a bit scared that. Lot of people that are having a wedding way later then I am have pretty much have everything planned out or at least a venue and the dress…and I have absolutely nothing lol just ideas! How did you start planning? What was the first thing on your check list? Are you planning your wedding on your own or is someone else helping you? Any information would sincerely help!!! I’m a bride in need because I really have no idea where to begin!

Post # 9
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014


I’m not as far along as OP, but the best place to start is the venue. Once you’ve got your venue and date, then start with other vendors, you’ll find caterers, photographers, make up artists ect need to know the area they’ll be working in, as sometimes they have set areas or charge an arm and a leg for travel and such, and you really need to know your date before booking them.

You can also get other things out of the way too, dresses, colours, themes, suits, centerpieces, rings, DIY projects ect. Anything that doesn’t rely on the venue you can work on right now, in the way of booking vendors though, I think you usually start with the venue and go from there.

Post # 10
853 posts
Busy bee

@brittanybed:  Let me just say I LOVE your dress. The lace is gorgeous. Can I ask who it’s by?

Post # 11
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think a gold or plum would be gorgeous and very ” fall like”!!

Post # 12
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It will come to you! Do you have pinterest? Start there and pin everything you like.  You’ll see a “theme” emerge of what you like and want.  

I was super lost too as there are SO many choices and decisions!  I made a pinterest board for every detail – cake, shoes, bm dresses, centerpieces, hair ideas – it keeps it much more organized. 

Then, after you’ve pinned for a few weeks, step back and look at the theme.  For example, I noticed even though I had 100 different hair styles pinned, they all were similar – simple, pulled back, side part.  

I also found these amazing pearl toasting flutes that I loved so much and once I had those, they kind of changed the game.  Before I had them I just had my colors and a general idea, but the flutes totally focused me, on this pearl kind of theme to guide the rest of my details and decor. 

You’ll get there, you still have plenty of time! Sometimes just stepping back for a bit can give you clarity. My wedding is in 4 months and I just came up with my “theme” and starting to pull it all together!  And, although it feels hectic and rushed and I’m running out of time, not having it done months ago is actually helping force me to make decisions that I couldn’t/wouldn’t before!

Post # 13
2705 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It sounds like you’ve got all the hard stuff figured out!  You have a lot of time so I wouldn’t be stressed out over anything yet.  You can definitely start looking at centerpieces, cake toppers, accessories, othere decor, ect.  I would just refrain from making major purchases until you are 100% sure what you want.  But for right now, I would just start browsing websites and magazines trying to get some inspiration.  You can even go to Michaels and get some stuff to make mock centerpieces to see what you like and what you don’t.

Also, as one PP mentioned, there is usually a cycle when it comes to wedding planning.  First, it’s super busy trying to figure out date, location, vendors, budget, guest list, and getting those Save-The-Date Cards out.  Then there’s a lull where you work on some of the details, but there is nothing pressing.  And finally, things pick up again a 2-3 months before the wedding when you start to send out invites and finalize everything.

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