- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
& personally it is the best decision I ever made. A few days ago on the Bee I saw a post that really got me thinking. The girl had gotten word from a guy who said all the right things but all too late. ( this is my biggest fear with my most recent ex) It was creepy how much our stories matched.
I was in love with a kid for years. I thought he was the one. Things changed, he became more worried about drinking and getting with other girls because if he got with me he knew it would be “too serious”. We were on and off. And right before I met my FI, we broke up.
I was never one for rebounds, I always believed they weren’t fair. To me, it wasn’t fair to have emotion for someone that was concerned and still hurt about her past relationship.
My ex left me at the worst time he could. I was in physical therapy everyday, I knew I would need to have surgery and I knew because of this my soccer carreer was basically over. It was the most devestating feeling I ever felt, outside of death of a loved one. My 16 year passion was closing. My ex knew how hard it was on me, I was leaning on him for support. We ended up breaking up because I called him while he was out with his friends and he told me I was too needy. This time it didn’t hurt as much, I didn’t want to wait on him anymore I was angry. I deleted his number, blocked him on social media and when I moved I made no effort to tell him. ( He couldn’t show up on my door step again when my love was convenient for him)
My FI and I met two weeks later. He was so kind and caring. Naturally I did what I usually do. I used my hardcore facade. I was brutally honest about my relationship situation. I acted like all his flirty, sweet, caring ways were oblivious to me. I even used the friend card.
He never gave up. Everyday after my surgery he came over and took care of me. He listened to me when I cried over losing my dream or my guy. He bought me ice cream. He did everything he could to take care of me. The first time he asked me out, I told him not to think anything of this date.
Obviously he proved me wrong in every aspect and he was there for me when I needed me most. He is my rebound. We moved too fast. We were engaged after 5 months. He’s made me make a choices I never thought I would make. He’s accepts me and challenges me at the same time. He’s the most supportive person I know. We aren’t perfect, we fight, we annoy each other, but most importantly we love the crap out of one another :].
So yes, I am marrying my rebound, and I could not be happier. :]