I'm more scared to be preggers than to have a kid

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kimber_bee:  Me too! I’m scared that when (if) I get pregnant, I will be miserable the whole time.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The strange thing is, you won’t know how pregnancy is going to affect you until it happens. I had always looked forward to being pregnant, but I was sure that I’d struggle physically – I already had a bad back, I don’t cope well with getting sick, I gain weight pretty easily. But I’ve had an easy pregnancy – tired and nauseous during 1st tri (but manageable), cruisey 2nd tri where I’d forget I was pregnant until I saw the bump, and now at 37.5 weeks I just have some hip and pelvic pain and heartburn (but I have tablets to ease that). I haven’t gained anything but baby weight (my metabolism is suddenly amazing and I can eat as much add I like, still mostly healthy though).

In terms of being scared of child birth, the best thing you can do is become informed about your amazing body and its ability to deliver children and to surround yourself with positive birth stories. if your only knowledge of birth is from tv and movies and friends’ horror stories, it’s natural to be scared, unfortunately our culture has decided to scare women about birth instead of celebrate and support it like in many other cultures!! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

@Kimber_bee:  I think we are fed a million horror stories. I am about 6 mos preg and was nauseas maybe 2 days. I have zero symptoms- no swollen feet, no puking, no heartburn. I have only gaied 7 lbs. it really isn’t a bad experience! I actually love it. Some people have more symptoms, some less- don’t assume you’ll be sick for months on end. As for hubby, if gaining weight while pregnant with his child is a huge turn off I’d be concerned about how he views you. most people will gain weight- even just a little- over time thanks to slower metabolism. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh, me too. I’m not TTC yet, but that is what I am worried about when the time comes. So scary! I’ll be having a C-section and that idea of it terrifies me!!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Kimber_bee:  ditto, that’s the reason I’d rather adopt.  I don’t want to be preggo and god forbid childbirth!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I LOVE being pregnant. I felt pretty yucky for most of the first trimester, but I’m eating healthfuly, getting regular exercise, and I’ve only gained 3.5lbs (and am more than 17 weeks pregnant)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@Kimber_bee:  you can’t force them to support you, but you don’t have to hear their opinions. Keep your medical care to yourself- don’t ask for opinions, don’t discuss it. Simple!

i promise you will love your bump! It can be hard to get bigger, but it is such a weird and bizarre experience That I am mostly in awe that my body knows how to do this with no prior experience!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@Kimber_bee:  currently 35 wks with my second bby and I can say…. I HATE being pregnant, no energy nauseaous and for us lucky ppl sciatica and hemorrhoids (sry tmi) along with a baby kicking u in the ribs at 3am so yea def nt like the movies

Giving birth isn’t as scary as it seems (not fun) but not scary. It’s almost like an adrenaline rush  you push through because your sooo excited to see your little one. Don’t forget everyone is different and your body will respond in it’s own way

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t get scared of being pregnant until I got pregnant. I then started thinking what did I get myself into? Can I live with feel sick and paranoid for 9 months??? But the way I see it is women have been doing it for ages. Some love being pregnant, some hate it…I have a feeling I will be somewhere in the middle of all that. Jsut remember that you won’t be pregnant forever, and that with time and motivation figures can be regained, nasea will reduce or can be treated…etc. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Aww well I haven’t gained any weight yet at 20weeks you never know how that’s going to go. And as far as your husband I hope he hasn’t ever said anything that made you feel that way bc if so that’s not nice. Anyway if that’s just something you’re feeling don’t worry too much you’ll be be growing his baby he will probably enjoy your bump my dh does. 

 

I honestly have not had a fun pregnancy but it’s worth it. 

Edit ohgood I see your hubby did not say anything like that.  Also natural childbirth I felt the same way that dh and I would be judged for our choices but our friends have been very supportive and even curious it’s been a good opportunity for us to share our thoughts with them. 

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

you cant tell how your husband will react to your pregnancy until it happens. my friends husbands have all reacted differently. one friend’s husband finds the idea of sex weird now there is a baby in there nad hasnt touched her since soon after the BFP, one finds it a turn on (who knows, sign of his virility maybe?) mine is just the same as he ever was. men, like women dont react all the same. chances are yours will just be normal and find you as attractive as he did before

you also cant know how pregnancy will be until you have it. every woman is different. you may not have any morning sickness at all! i didnt (pretty much) btu i had constant headaches and extreme tiredness till 14 weeks. oh and crazy mood swings. now im tired but at least i dont feel actively ill every day

its good to have an idea of your ideal brith but dont be so set on it that youll be devastated if it doesnt work otu. sometimes interventions are necessary, and ive seen a lot of posts on the other forum i use written by women very upset that birth didnt go exactly how theyd planned out in their head (eg devastated an emergency csection was used for example)

all in all though itll be fine. i was freaked out till now (im 16 weeks along) and now im pretty chilled about it. negative symptoms have gone and im not stressed

Post # 16
mswallabyBee
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@Kimber_bee:  Me too!!! Especially the morning sickness – I’m so scared about that!

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