I just had to ring work and explain that i wasn’t going to be in today because my grandmother was rushed to hospital (anyone that knows me knows how much I love her and she’s like a 2nd mum to me) and burst out crying on the phone to my boss, I couldn’t even talk properly. I feel like an idiot. Anyone know how I can recover from this when I go back to work?
@debbieotoole: I don’t think you acted like an idiot at all! Especially if its someone that is close to you. Anyone with human emotions should be understanding but personally, I don’t like to bring details about my personal life at work so I would probably say something short like “I apologize for the unexpected burst of emiotion. I’m just very close to my grandmother.”
@debbieotoole: Well the only person who will know is your boss… it shouldn’t go any further than her/him. So… you should only have to worry about that. Second, I don’t know why it’s that big a deal… she’s a close family member and it was a difficult and surprising circumstance. I’d understand being a bit sheepish around your boss for a little while, but not really… mortified.
At most just confront your boss and apologize for the emotional outburst on the phone. Explain that she’s like a mother to you and that it was very shocking/surprising. I’m sure your boss thinks nothing of it, really. If one of my employees called me up like that, I’d just feel bad for them and hoped everything worked out for them. Next time I saw that employee, I’d just ask how everything was. No reason to feel ashamed.
I’ve had staff burst into tears in front of me and over the phone. Don’t worry about it.
I hope your grandmother is okay.
I don’t know if this will help but I will tell you the embarrassing, true story of a loved one of mine.
She works for a factory that has existed for less than 10 years, and especially in the earlier years, the owner was very involved on the factory floor and helped to troubleshoot problems.
So, apparently they had an area where they were taking cables out of ovens (certain cables have to be baked during the manufacturing process, fun fact) and they were concerned that someone would touch them and get burned. So they decided it would be a good idea to make a “caution: hot” sign. When the owner of the company and another higher up were debating with her as to where to put the sign, she had a temporary break with reality and decided to slap her own ass and say “Stick it right here!” They were dead silent, imagine crickets chirping, and she was MORTIFIED. (She is normally a pretty reserved forty-something year old woman.)
Yet, several years later, she still works there, has gotten raises, and nobody really knows about this incident who she hasn’t told personally (and she’s told a few because it’s just pretty damn funny).
So, I don’t really think your incident was cause for embarrassment, and I hope your grandmother is doing well. But the moral of the story is that even if you do something incredibly embarrassing, it may seem like the end of the world at the time, but it probably won’t be something that matters at all in the long run.
@hyperJulie: your grandma’s story is hilarious!
@debbieotoole: I’m sure your boss will understand. It’s only human of us to break down when a loved one is in trouble.
@hyperJulie: that story really cheered me up haha thank you
and thank you all
My FI owned a business and one night we went and checked on one of the employees who was doing late night paper work because we were in the area, and her brother had just passed away. And she cried and hugged my FI. Our views on her never changed and she didn’t have to ‘recover’ herself for the next time we saw her
I had my car towed from the apartment building I lived at because i forgot to put my parking pass and i have horrible anxiety, so i called my boss to let her know i would be late and i was bawling. I was kind of embarassed but in the end, I am human. If someone is going to judge you because you are going through a hard time then that is there problem.
I thought FI and were going to break-up. It wasn’t just an argument but something like along the lines of re-evaluating whether this is good. I didn’t sleep a wink that night. I couldn’t stop crying. I called out sick but needed to explain this to my boss. I didn’t want to seem irresponsible so I called my boss. He’s a really busy guy, but he took the time to call me back and he calmed me down. I couldn’t even talk. I just couldn’t get it together. He was kind and understanding. He said relationships are hard and anyway who says they’re easy is full of it. It takes work. He told me to stay home and chill out.
If you’re have a health crisis regarding your grandmother whom you love, it’s reasonable to be emotional. And if you’re a valued employee your boss will understand and never look at you differently. I understand being embarrassed, I cringe at my episode but your scenario is even MORE emotional. Don’t let this get to you. These things happen to all of us.