Post # 1
So, i know ill probably cop some slack for this but….We have decided , final decision, at risk of being called “cheap” We are not doing favors,
I have a couple of reasons behind this
*We would rather use the money spent on favors and put it toward champagne service at the ceremony for all our guests, as well as drinks on the bar in the “gap” between the ceremony and reception whilst we take pictures
*We feel that the photobooth instant strip suffice as “take me homes”
*Our band is costing $3500 and they are amazing so that experience is better than the little favors that we could supply that many will choose to leave behind anyway
At risk of sounding bitchy, this is one element of our wedding that we can eliminate and we don’t care if guests call us cheap because 3 courses, cake, free alcohol, an amazing band and unlimited photos in the photo booth should be enough.
Any body else feel the same?
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
I’d be surprised if you catch any flack for this. I feel like not having favors has become more common than having favors, at least where I live. They are an extra expense that just seem pointless to me!
Post # 4
There’s probably a few people who feel they absolutely must have their jordan almonds in tulle, but I don’t think it’s a big deal to skip favours.
Post # 5
I definitely think not having favors is a more popular choice right now. About time everyone saw the light! I didn’t think twice about having them.
Post # 6
@beautifullyboheamian: Do Australians even do favours? I’m Australian and I’ve never been to a wedding which had favours.
Post # 7
From the very beginning I have said no to favors… Free dinner, alcohol, and dancing is enough thanks to the guests for attending!
Post # 8
We’re not having favours. I’m upgrading the drinks package for everyone instead. I really don’t think people make a big deal of favours anymore.
Post # 9
@beautifullyboheamian: When I first started reading about wedding stuff on the bee everyone flipped out at suggestion that people wouldn’t be providing favors. I really stressed out over it until I thought back to all the weddings I’ve been to in real life, not once have I ever gotten a favor nor had I been upset that I didn’t get any. I won’t be doing favors and in all honesty I doubt anyone will miss them.
Post # 10
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
I am not having favors…personally I do not want to waste money on something that will either be put into the trash by the end of the night or never get used. I did think about having a candy buffet but changed my mind on that as well since that will cost roughly $500! I think you will be fine without them. I don’t think many people notice the lack thereof. Unless you are on TLC’s Four Weddings…lol! Then you better have some favors to increase your chance of winning the honeymoon 😉
Post # 11
@paula1248: Just the almonds in tulle is what I am used to.
But I guess this is the result of the internet. Same as with bridal showers, BM’s paying for attire creeping into Australian weddings.
Post # 12
@j_jaye: im paying for all my girls dresses and shoes make up hair the works, to be honest i think the weeding can escalate so fr that it soon becomes about impressing every guest and not as mucb abiut the marriage so ive decided to reel it back in!
Post # 13
We aren’t doing favors, either.
I know sometimes people say photobooths acts a favor because of the take home pictures. We are having a photobooth and we were going to do that along side with a candy buffet. But, we ended up ditching the candy buffet.
At first when we started planning the wedding, I was big on favors. However, as time went on, I realized that it is kind of an unnecessary expense (for us). A general favor may be a few bucks, $3/pp x 240 guests can add up quite qucikly!
Post # 14
@beautifullyboheamian: We aren’t doing favors per say. I’ve been to so many weddings where I get a favor and I don’t know what to do with it and they end up in the garbage. I’ve received miniture picture frames, sticky note pads, cork/wine stoppers etc and I get how people may feel these are “useful” gifts, they really aren’t.
Although I feel we are ALREADY doing more than enough for our guests, my fiance and I have decided that instead of a favor that people don’t need/want/will use, we are going to pick a charity of our choice and donate the money that we would spend on a favor for our guests. Also when people want to clink the glasses to kiss, that won’t work. They will need to donate to the charity of our choice and it will be all added to the favor amount. I figure if I am going to be giving away money, might as well give it toward research for a cure or someone who could use it more than us.
Post # 15
I completely agree with you! I said the same thing about favors for our wedding…by the end of the night, the majority of people forget the favors anyways(or its something that they will end up getting rid of anyways) …so i felt like i would rather save that money…or put it towards something else. Instead of doing favors we are actually doing a dessert bar (my FI doesn’t like cake) so it will double over as dessert and people can take some home if they want 🙂
Post # 16
We had 140 guests at our wedding, and put out 150 favors. (Little bags of locally made sea-salt caramels.) At the end of the reception, we took about 120 little bags of sea salt caramels home with us. Almost nobody took them!
Before our wedding, I was always really pro-favors (at least edible ones) but now? I don’t think anyone will miss them. Lol.