Post # 1
.. I’m already wondering how I’m going to manage!
realize my title makes me sound a bit ahead of myself but I’m not I swear! Although we haven’t announced it yet, we’ve ftend the ring and are asking for our collective parental blessing tomorrow. We’ve been talkand about wedding planning and babies and I’m pretty sure that once we havthat’s ring, it won’t be much longer.
So I was bored this evening and I made a preliminary guest list. I wrote down all the people that I could think of that I felt really should be at my wedding. So far, the count I have on our close friends and family is 90. And I’m positive I’m missing some close family on his side, there’s just too many for me to get my head around! And this count is before I have his input on it.
Thinking about tht number gets me thinking about the dynamic of the whole show and it kind of makes a girl run away. I love everyone in both our families but we come from similar yet wildly diffenent homes (religious, but Protestant vs Catholic, similar values but very different Ways of life and raising) my family is conservative and catholic and his is super liberal and not really religious as all anymore. Like I said, I love them all so dearly but everyone in one room to celebrate our marriage is going to be just plain intense.
I want this so badly, for my Grandma to come, my Dads to walk me down the aisle, the party after with my favourite wine and his favourite beer. But I’m super apprehensive about the whole thing!
I need to keep tthe people under control and the budget under control. I have NO idea what the budget will be but let’s just give you an idea of our type of poor broke student t status type life: we’re going to wear family wedding bands and by the time we are done paying for my ring, including tax and shipping and duty fees, it will be less than $400 We are totally not in this to spend a ton of money.
Any ideas from the lovely Bees? How do I keep this chill, cheap and under wraps?
Post # 3
@lalalyanne: It can seem overwhelming when you’re doing it alone but once you get engaged you’ll have your fiance and your best friends to help you. You could always have a morning ceremony and do a luncheon, an evening ceremony with appies, desserts and drinks only or a casual backyard BBQ. I hope your engagement is just around the corner and happy planning.
Post # 4
I have similar numbers for family but it’s mostly just my side!
Firstly, cut any plus 1s that aren’t actually long term partners. They will be with their family, they don’t need a guest. (so if you don’t know the girlfriend/boyfriend that well, they aren’t engaged, living together or have been together longer than 1.5years (this time is up to you) – cut them!)
Secondly, remember that you haven’t spoken to your families about this yet, you don’t know if they might be wanting to contribute financially.
Thirdly, you can always do a cake and punch (+booze :P) reception. They can be lovely and very romantic and family orientated.
Fourthly – STOP! Stop planning NOW! You need to be able to actually enjoy some of your engagement time without thinking about these things. You’ve made your list, you’ve had your freak out, now put it away and walk away. There will be plenty of time for this later when you have your support system in place to help.
Post # 5
I did the same thing at first and I know it can seem super overwhelming. I had my christmas card list, along with other people written down and typed onto labels because I printed the Christmas addresses off. Sooooo I had already known with adding some people from work and whatnot that my list would be big…..my family is on the larger side so I already anticipated it. My side as of right now is 180 and my fiance’s is 45. He doesn’t talk to his real dad or any of that family so he didn’t have many people to invite. The close friends for him are in the wedding. Our parents are helping pay for some stuff so we won’t have to pay for EVERYTHING…I’m guessing our wedding will be around $7000 though still.
Take a step back, STOP PLANNING and enjoy this time period 🙂