(Closed) Im not even sure i want to get married now…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

wow hes harsh.

If you want a wedding i say do it! It wont be excatly the same without them but you have to make the most of it. Do what amkes you happy, you cant please everyone

Post # 4
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241 posts
Helper bee

If you’re not “officially engaged” yet, why in the world are you worrying about this? Maybe you should take it one step at a time?

Post # 5
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Agree with lovelymayday! Don’t let anyone else rain on your parade! If they don’t want to be happy with you, that is their loss! But you’ll regret it if you let them bully you out of what you want.  Celebrate your love and your life and don’t sweat the h8rs.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If I were your parents, I would probably react the same way.

Based on your previous post, it sounds like you are seriously rushing things. You want your parents to be supportive, but you’re not even engaged yet! SLOW DOWN. It’s unreasonable to expect support yet. Take things one step at a time. 

Wait until you’re actually engaged to start nagging for support. Your parents are probably worried you’re going to get hurt again. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You don’t want to get married unless you can have the kind of wedding you want? While there’s plenty of advice to be given about paying for a wedding yourself and not having parents who really get excited or care about it…I think it’s pretty concerning that you would just not get married over this. The marriage is a heck of a lot more important than the wedding. A wedding is one day…the marriage is the rest of your life. If the wedding is the most important part to you, and you’re now not sure you want to get married over this, I think that says you’re probably not ready. Maybe that isn’t true and you’re just upset at your dad’s reaction…but please think about it. Making the wedding more important in your mind than the marriage is setting yourself up for bad things.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Well if you want a wedding, it seems like the only thing stopping you is the proposal. SO WAIT FOR IT. No proposal = no wedding. Let things come in their own time!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

The attitiude in your other post (“I was under the delusion that my parents would be excited and willing to pay out thousands to make it happen”) is pretty telling about your expectations of your parent’s contribution to your wedding, and maybe they’re picking up on that complete sense of entitlement. If you want it, make it happen. Don’t depend on anyone else to make it for you.

Oh and get engaged first 🙂 Lol.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SerenityLove:  Sounds like you want a wedding…not a marriage. I was hoping I was wrong when I said that you may not be ready to get married…but if your only response is to clarify that yes, you won’t get married without a traditional wedding…then I stand by my original statement, you’re not ready to get married. Because getting married is not about your big day and wearing a pretty dress and walking down the aisle with your dad. It’s about building a life with your partner, starting your own family, pledging to stick together through the good and the bad. And if none of that matters unless you get the wedding you want, you’re setting yourself up to become a divorce statistic, because you’re not doing this for the right reasons. Sorry to sound harsh, but I think you need to hear it.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Hmm… I didn’t really understand the situation until I checked out some of your previous posts.  If you are looking for advice, then you might want to listen to all the women on this website, and all the people in your life, telling you to s-l-o-w down. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Do they disapprove of your SO for some reason?

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