(Closed) I’m not excited about it anymore

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I really did not enjoy planning at all.  It was all stress to me and not really much fun.  I was so glad when it was over!

Post # 4
Member
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re doing the courthouse thing partly for this reason–we got tired of the stress and negativity that comes along with planning a wedding. I am, however, keeping my fingers crossed for you that when the day comes, it will be a wonderful experience (I suspect it will). Don’t worry about the “shoulds” (musterbation)–focus on how you feel and what you can do to alleviate some of the stress. Weddings have a tendency to bring out the worst in people, as I’m sure you’ve noticed, but what matters at the end of the day is that you and your FI love each other and will be married.

Also, this (hopefully to at least make you smile!) :

Post # 5
Member
1046 posts
Bumble bee

I did. NOTHING went right at our wedding. Hopefully since a bunch of stuff has already gone wrong in the planning process, your day will go perfectly!

Here’s to hoping at least.. Best of luck, and just remember to soak up every minute of the day. I focused on too many little things going wrong and didn’t live in the moment enough.

 

Post # 7
Member
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@KaitlinHudson: It’s actually a psychology term, believe it or not! Can’t remember the theory for the life of me…I’m a bad student, haha. I love that picture, though. Glad it helped!

Post # 8
Member
433 posts
Helper bee

Sorry you’re having a rough time 🙂

Also, just wanted to say I live in Baltimore and I love the Brandywine area!

Post # 9
Member
1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I can’t believe someone would say that your enthusiasm for wedding planning has something to do with your enthusiasm for marriage!

Most of wedding planning sucks. Who wants to read contracts? Deal with unhappy relatives? Calculate projected beverage consumption? Need a paper bag after reading credit card statements?

So I think you’re justified. But I also agree that there are a lot of “shoulds” in wedding planning that are really just hogwash and if it’s driving you crazy to do them, go ahead and skip them. Admittedly, yes there are somethings you just have to deal with–if you want a wedding, you have to find a venue for it–but just pay attention to the things that you *think* you need versus things you actually need and fugettabout it if it’s the former.

Post # 11
Member
4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re not a bad bride! Wedding planning is a really stressful time and half of the time I wanted to say “screw it” (the wedding) and elope. However, it was really worth it on that day to be surrounded by so many people who loved us as we got married. Hang in there!

Post # 12
Member
26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@KaitlinHudson Wow, I read this and just had to post. Its nice to know I’m not the only bride to be going through these kind of things. Here’s a few of mine…

– After people backing out, coming in and backing out as bridesmaids and groomsmen, we thought we finally had it together and submitted this info to our location and our DJ just to be told yesterday that one groomsman is backing out. We were going to move an usher which should have been simple enough but one of the bridesmaids isn’t happy about that idea (umm really? Who asked ya?)

– Fiance got a $100 red light ticket due tomorrow and the car has to get new stickers by the end of this month and we’re low on funds (who decided to get married in October?!.. Oh, that was me Embarassed)

– His father has offered no help whatsoever and his grandma says she can’t because she’s worried about what her son (his father) will say (umm WHAT?). Now, the kicker on this is, my fiance’s been outta work for over a year because of a car accident last year. We will have an answer on whether the insurance company accepts his request on Nov 1st. We’ve told his grandma if its an issue, we will get the money right back to her. He’s gonna try to talk to his dad again so we will see.

– Lazy wedding party members and bitterness on my end, ie why am I going to put effort and energy into gifts for people who have done nothing to help or when they have, done nothing but moan and groan. (I feel like a bridezilla ewwww)

So anyway, I’m getting through these next few days keeping in my head the reason why I’m getting married and trying sooo hard not to let these snafu’s get me down. 5 more days!

I hope things get better for you!!

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