Post # 1
Bees, I really just need some encouragement.
My wedding is in 11 days, and the closer it gets the more depressed I get. Don’t get me wrong, I want to marry my Fiance, but I don’t want to have this wedding now. I would rather just go off and get it done.
Everything has just built up, and people are being so rude to me. I look at someone the wrong way and I get snapped at, when I don’t even mean to look any certain way. My birthday is tomorrow and my Fiance wasn’t planning on doing anything for me, and got annoyed when I asked if he could pick up a cake for me today when he went to the grocery store. He also left last night and went back to his parents house, instead of staying here with me. My mom for whatever reason doesn’t like my Future Mother-In-Law. She has no reason not to like her, but has said some really rude things about her, to me…I told my Fiance (which I regret doing now) and now that’s caused tension between my Fiance, me, and my mom.
My bridesmaids still don’t have their shoes for the wedding. One is being a pain in acting like she has no money, yet goes out to eat and to the movies everyday (no exaggeration).
I just can’t take much more. I’m trying so hard to get extra school work done so I can have a free wedding night, so I don’t have assignments to do, and I can’t bring myself to get my work done. I’m just so overwhelmed and all I want to do is sleep.
I also don’t know how I’m going to do my hair and makeup for the wedding day. I was planning on doing the pin-up look like I had posted on, but I can’t get my hair to cooperate like that again, and I’ve tried 3 separate days. 🙁
I know I probably sound stupid, but the wedding is 11 days away and I just can’t get myself excited when all the people around me are being so rude and just disrespectful at times.
Sorry for venting, I just don’t know what else to do right now.
Post # 3
Why did you set your date for right around finals? I think that all the stress is making you see things as worse than they are.
As far as your mom sayin things about your Mother-In-Law, it seems she is bitter about a lot of things. I would ignore her, and NOT say anything to your Fiance about what she says anymore.
Its been said before, but you can’t dictate how people spend their money. I hope that your BMs will get their act together before the wedding
Post # 4
You’re almost there, dear. Just hang on a bit longer. You’ll make it through. (hugs)
Post # 5
The end is in sight!
Everythign gets really tense and emotional before the wedding, it will probably get worse, before it gets better!
I’m sorry Fiance didn’t have anything planned for your B-day- is that unusual?
Post # 7
Hang in there! It sounds like you have a lot going on. Try not to sweat the small stuff, like petty arguments/tension coming from your mom. Do the best you can…but don’t expect so much of yourself. Your wedding is going to be awesome and it sounds like you deserve some ‘me time’ with a bottle of wine and a birthday cupcake! Treat yourself and just try to relax a bit before the big day. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Post # 8
On that day, when you marry Fiance, it will all somehow seem worth it. Let the stress of everyone else and their drama go. Concentrate on school work and relaxing when you can.
Post # 9
@MrsSl82be: I don’t have finals before the wedding, I have them in Jan. after I get back from break (our break starts the 19th). I go to school online, so my schedule is different than everyone elses.
@MrsArgentina: Usually he takes me out at least somewhere to eat. He said it “slipped his mind, and he didn’t even think about it”. Just made me feel unimportant since he didn’t want to spend time with me last night. :/
Post # 10
Oh hon hang in there. You’re so close, and these last days will fly by. And the only thing that matters is that you’ll be married to your Fiance. I know finals are stressful, just try to take it in stride and focus on the light at the end of the tunnel!
Post # 11
@Merelton: Thank you 🙂
@mwitter80: thanks, and I”m trying my best. lol
@misspeanut: thank you!
Post # 12
Hey sweetie, hang in there! It does sound like you have a lot on your plate right now, but it will soon be all done. I think feeling overwhelmed is normal and that feeling usually drowns out feelings of excitement. I wouldn’t harp on the things you can’t control, like the tension between your Fiance and your mom. Just let that one go. Take some time out for yourself, even just an hour or two, go treat yourself to a movie or a walk in the park. Whatever will take your mind off things. I think you just need to clear your head and put things in perspective.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone for the encouragement, I’m feeling somewhat better. I think I’m just gonna have some hot chocolate, work on school work, then take a bubble bath and relax before my Fiance gets home from work. lol I’m gonna try not to let the little things get to me and just start ignoring people if I have to. But thanks everyone, it means a lot!
Post # 14
Take the next few days for you, and don’t pay attention to others. Concentrate on what you need to do and dont’ let other people and their attitudes get you down. Make a list of everything you have to get done, and start. Contact the BM’s with no shoes one more time and tell them that it needs to be done, yesterday.
You will finish everything. You will have a beautiful wedding. Just keep your head up and focus on what you have to do. Don’t have time to answer the phone? That’s what voicemail is for. Can’t check emails? Do it later. Pick the most important stuff and let everyone’s demands wait. You will get it done!
Post # 15
I am sorry youre stressing! It is right around the corner and when the day comes you will feel so relieved!
On another not:
It’s my daughter’s birthday today too!!! Tis a good day!