Post # 1
I am only inviting close friends & family to my wedding (maybe 55-60 total) so since there are only 8 close friends and siblings that are invited all-in-all (that could qualify for wedding party), I am opting out of having an official wedding party. Instead, I am making dress color suggestions for all the close friends (so overall everyone coordinates) and involving them all intimately in the wedding DIY stuff. I don’t feel that I need a select group friends & family to stand up at the ceremony with us since my ceremony will be so small and intimate. Overall, I feel good about my decision but I get a little nervous about anticipating “day of” issues such as who hold the rings, initiating toasts, etc. I want input on how to anticipate and handle these issues since I am going without a wedding party.
Did you go without a wedding party? Did you face any “problems” because of it? How did you deal with them?
Even though I’m not having a “wedding party” – I told all my close friends who are invited that they are all my “wedding people who party” 🙂
Post # 3
I had a wedding party but I think it is perfectly OK that you arent having one! Especially with such an intimate wedding. Your officiant can hold the rings, or your FH, and you can ask a parent to start the toasts. Do what makes you comfortable, it is your special day 🙂
I only think it is strange when there are waaaay too many in the bridal party in a small wedding… I have seen this several times.
Post # 4
@kateisstoned: My daughter didn’t have a wedding party, just their children and her neice. The celebrant conducted the ceremony, and one of the witnesses (need 2) came up with the rings during the ceremony.
We had an MC at the reception who took care of announcing the speaches/toasts. It worked beautifully as we also had a small wedding, 76 people including a bunch of kids.
My friend who is getting married later this is doing something similar to you, she has been a bridesmaid many times, so all of her good friends (who she was bridesmaid for) are ‘colour coordinating’ dresses, but she is having all of their children accompany her in matching off-white dresses/shirts for boys.
Plan it the way you want, it will be beautiful.
Post # 5
We will have 67 guests plus ourselves. Originally I wasn’t opposed to having a bridal party, but I could think of only ~2 girlfriends I would want to ask, while FI has ~8 close friends that he would have wanted to include. Overall, it would have looked lopsided. Besides, with the small guest list, most people invited to the wedding are very close to us already!
Our parents and siblings (1 each) are processing down the aisle at the beginning of the ceremony, and each family will deliver a blessing as part of the ceremony. The reception will include toasts by several close friends of ours.
Several of my girlfriends were so sweet as to throw a little shower for me. FI’s friends are throwing a similar party for him. We are getting the pre-wedding festivities from very generous friends, but I don’t think we would have missed those opportunities. With no bridal party, we had no expectations of those.
Post # 6
We are estimating anywhere from 45-60 guests, and we are having a very small wedding party – 1 best man, 1 groomsmen, 1 maid of honor, & 1 bridesmaid.
I think it’s perfectly okay to not have a wedding party!
Post # 7
We’re having about 50 guests and very little about our wedding is traditional. My sister, FI’s sister, FI’s brother, and one of FI’s good friends will be standing at the altar with us, but two are there to hold our dogs and two are there to hold rings/perform readings lol it’s a small, intimate ceremony and we figured it would work well this way. Plus none of our friends or family were offended or concerned about who would be in the wedding party. Or at least none that were invited. 😛
Post # 8
We are having a 110pp wedding but are not having a wedding party. We do have some friends who are the “would-be” party but we’re not asking them to do anything except come and have fun.
Post # 9
@kateisstoned: We aren’t having one. We have decided to elope, but even when we had our wedding booked here we didn’t want a wedding party.
It’s your day, there is no rule to say that you have to. I had a couple of girlfriends make comments to me, but I’m a pretty to-the-point person and they stopped bugging real fast!
Post # 10
We are having 125-150 and we will only have a MOH and a BM
Post # 11
45 guest here and no MOH or GM or wedding party of any sort. You can have them if you want at a small wedding but I just thought it was silly at mine because I have four sisters and I think that’s a lot for such a small wedding.
Post # 12
I’m not having a wedding party! I’m having a small intimate ceremony (about 40 people) then a larger reception afterwards.
My SO is totally fine with not having a wedding party; he’s pretty much ok with whatever I want to do lol
Post # 13
We’re having a small wedding- 54 people total including us and our photographers. I couldn’t get away with having less than 4 bridesmaids without someone getting hurt feelings so we opted out of it all together.
We have my cousin (like a sister to me) and FI’s brother stand in as our witnesses. FI wanted to do a big wedding party but I couldn’t see having 1/4 of our guests standing up with us.
Post # 14
@kateisstoned: I’m doing exactly what you’re doing, and I am *so* glad. It’s been a smooth 13 months, with 6 more to go and everything is coming together beautifully. Everyone who is helping is happy to help, and everyone who doesn’t want to help isn’t. I still have yet to figure out how we will all coordinate though. I should probably get on that 🙂
Post # 15
We’re having max 75 guests (haven’t sent out invites yet), and decided that since we were going small and less formal to not have a bridal party. We also thought that it was a romantic idea of it being just the 2 of us up there especially since we are each other’s best friend. My photographer was actually excited that we weren’t having a bridal party because that will make the pictures easier to coordinate and there will be more of just us.
Post # 16
We didn’t have a wedding party; we had our 2 daughter, 2 dogs, and 2 flowergirls walk up the aisle for the ceremony. Our wedding had 51 guests and my husband and I were the only ones standing up with the minister during the ceremony. It was laid back and casual.