I'm not in love with my diamond! What should I do?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@shortie1848:  I’d keep going. If you just upgrade to a SI1, it’ll be eye-clean!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think I can see what you’re talking about. Would the setting’s prongs cover it at all??

I would say you should have them get some similar diamonds in for you to see if those are better!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Yes if it bothers you now it might always bother you. Or you could get used to it but if you have the option to get better clarity then you should.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with the above Bee’s.  If you can upgrade to SI1 it will  be eye clean and you won’t see inclusions.  However, if the prongs or setting you are using will cover that particular inclusion than it would be ok..  otherwise, it will probably keep bothering you in the long run. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@shortie1848:  If it bothers you now- it will always bother you- even if it’s covered up by the setting.  I’m not sure if you bought the diamond from the jeweler (I realize you were looking at specs on paper)- but either upgrade, or buya diamond online where you can choose “eye clean”

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@shortie1848:  And FYI- even though in theory, I think it’s assumed they are- NOT all SI1’s are eye clean- even though the majority ARE.  I’m only telling you this because if you just decide to look at specs on paper again, it’s possible to get another diamond that’s not entirely eye clean with SI1.  Rare, but possible.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

If it bothers you, then I would keep looking. However, the idea that an SI1 is always eye-clean is definitely NOT true. Additionally, in SI grades, I would rather have one visible inclusion (often one can be hidden by a prong, for example) than have the GIA cert read, “Grade based on clouds not shown”. That basically means that while you may not be able to make out a specific inclusion, it is clouded enough overall to affect light play. Research inclusions so you can choose a plot that you think will suit you best (many people favour one type of inclusion over another, and some inclusions are far more visible than others). Consider going up in clarity, but do not assume that an SI1 will be eye-clean or even have better light play than the SI2. Buying a stone sight unseen is always a tricky business, and it helps to order from someone you trust who can tell you how the stone looks before sending it.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@shortie1848:  if you don’t like it, ask to see more with better clarity.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s much better to say something now then accept it and be stuck with an inclusion you know your going to stare at the whole time you own it.  Tell the jeweler you want it to be eye clean or look elsewhere.  Keep looking.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I would recommend you keep looking. Something with significantly better clarity.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@shortie1848:  Are you sure that is an inclusion or is that just a reflection of the background coming through the stone?

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

@shortie1848:  Just out of curiosity, the stone is excellent cut according to who? GIA doesn’t give cut grades to fancy cuts like cushions. Choosing a cushion with the numbers alone is taking a shot in the dark, there are no hard or fast rules and the numbers really don’t tell you anything about how it’ll perform. 

I wouldn’t accept a stone that wasn’t eye clean, so I’d tell you to keep looking. If you can, ask your jeweler to bring in a few cushions so you can compare how each one looks. There are many different styles of cushion cuts also, and its something you have to see for yourself. Take the time now to do it right, so you don’t regret it for a lifetime. Best of luck!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My advice, its better to go a bit smaller carat wise and get a VVS1-VS2. Or if budget isn’t an issue, stay as the same size and go for higher clarity. Only in the VS range can it be guaranteed eye clean.

I’d much rather have a smaller diamond of good clarity than a big SI or lower. I know some people have an SI1 and swear they see no inclusions (and I believe them) but it was graded as “slightly included” for a reason, ifyou’re sensitive to clarity issues, don’t chance it. 

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