(Closed) I’m not letting him see…Are you?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is it a bad idea to keep his wedding band a surprise?
    Yes - he has to wear it forever he should pick it out : (24 votes)
    86 %
    No - yours was a surprise and it has romance to it to keep it a surprise. : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Other - explain below : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Well, I think you should definitely do what makes you both happy BUT, here’s my advice: 

    My FI is a really practical person. At first, he just said ‘let’s just get something cheap – I’m only going to wear it when we go out, etc.’, and then we went in to try on bands for me, and he tried some on for kicks. Sure enough, he fell in love with a Tungsten Carbide ring. It was def. not cheap, but it made him happy. 

    I think if I were to just get something ‘cheap’ like he wanted, he would have been disappointed. It’s a very personal thing – I think you should let him give you some direction on what he likes. 

    Post # 5
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @Corilee13: Awesome!!! I love it here 🙂 we just moved because I fell in love with the town!

    Post # 6
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    14316 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think its really hard to judge what will look good on his hand (band width) without trying it on.  Are you going to try some on or just take a guess?  I’m glad FI and I went shopping for his ring… if I tried to surprise him, I think I would have ended up with something we both hated for him.

    Post # 7
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    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My FI was like “Oh, anything will be fine,” but similar to napabridekelsey ‘s experience, once he tried some on, he realized he was *really* picky about his band.  So I voted no just from my own personal experience.  If your FI is truly okay with it, then go for it!  Or at least give him a chance to give you some input. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’ve never heard of women keeping it as a surprise before, actually. FI has his picked out already, he found exactly what he wanted and sent me the link.

    Post # 9
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    6893 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Hm, I don’t know about this. Granted, FI and I picked out my ring together for the same reason – I have to wear it forever as well. But I never would have picked the rings that he liked and merely made suggestions regarding weight or durability while he and I were shopping for his. His is also pretty unique and “him” though. It’s really whatever the two of you are comfortable with.

    Does he WANT a say? I think that would determine my choice more in your situation.

    Post # 11
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted Yes. Here’s my thinking. Either you get him something unique/cool and you have to just pray he wants to wear it forever or you get him a basic band which is not the most exciting surprise ever. My FI took forever to pick out his ring because we were debating metals/finishes/widths. I’d at least go shopping to narrow down your choices and surprise him with which option you picked.

    Post # 12
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    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Do it!  I did this for my husband, and he loved it!  He gave me some general guidelines (metal type, ring size, etc…) but I picked out what I thought he’d like.  I also got it engraved as his wedding gift.  He ended up loving the ring, and it was a special little surprise on our wedding day.  🙂

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