I'm not meant for bachelorettes…

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Jw1724:  I think I am with you on this one… I am not interested in having a bachelorette party with penises and strippers etc. Not that I am majorly prudish, but I am almost 40 and it seems very tacky and ‘young’ to me. Tee hee a penis! *blush* uhhh yes, I’ve seen one before. So when I mentioned to a couple of (not close) friends about not going out and partying – I was thinking something a little more classy like mani/pedi and high tea.. they were like ‘Whaaaaat?  But you need to get WILD and PAAAARTAAAAAY!’ The ‘wild and crazy’ bachelorette parties I have been on are usually boring and they fizzle out after a couple of hours. I’ve been to enough that I don’t need to hold my own. My friend is also getting married 3 weeks before I am, and she’s having a big party, so I can just touch plastic penises at her gig. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Jw1724:  I think the tradition stems from the olden days where men and women barely kissed before getting married.. so it was all a big blush fest for the naive virgin bride. I don’t really think that’s a common start to married life anymore so I don’t really see the need for this one last hoorah. Times have changed so much but some traditions haven’t changed along with it. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Jw1724:  Oh well 😛 Maybe she can have lots of penises at her own party? 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

These days most couples live together before marriage and behave like a married couple for most if not all purposes, so the bachelorette party as it was originally meant becomes pointless and yes, silly. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Jw1724:  Totally agree with you and your FI; these days a girls night out going to fun places makes more sense than a traditional bachelorette featuring anything with penises.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Jw1724:  my MOH and I were talking about mine last night. I loathe typical bahlorette parties. I’m live the wine and paint idea a lot though!

Sorry the coworker was being so rude. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

Jw1724:  It doesn’t sound like you like this person much or have anything in common with her. Is this normal behaviour for her, to be loud and attention seeking? If so why did you expect her to be any different on your night out? I think this is one of the biggest mistakes that brides make, thinking that other people will change their personalities just beccause they are getting married. 

I really am questioning why you even invited her?

Post # 14
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Jw1724:  my opinion is that it is the brides party and should represent the bride! My friend got married last summer and she is a quiet, understated girl. We went on a winery tour, hung out at a daytime outdoor concert, had a nice dinner, and got a quick nightcap and were home by 11. And it was perfect for her!! We did make he wear a (non-penis) sash and tiara all day :). 

But if the bride is more of a party girl, I see no harm in the stripper laden, penis filled wild party. You just have to respect the bride either way

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

More proof: people are lame. Sorry she pressured you like that. So thoughtless. 🙁

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