Post # 1
Not being pregnant has lead me to become a drunk….
I was at dinner with DH’s family to celebrate a family birthday. In all, there were around 15 aunts, uncles and cousins. They ordered a few bottles of wine, but because I was tired and didn’t want to waste the calories, I declined a glass.
Then the whispers started… “She’s not drinking…wink…wink….”, “what, no wine, you never turn down a glass of wine???” Everyone’s eyes were on me, and I kept getting these “you have a secret” smiles. DH’s mom was practically beaming at me.
To stop the insanity, I decided to order a vodka tonic, and then another, and proceeded to get pretty drunk.
Not gonna lie, it felt great (until this morning)!
Post # 3
Glad you had fun! This was the thing I hated most about TTC. It’s like you are upset because you aren’t pregnant and yet everyone can’t stop talking about it. I was charting and found my temps were really off in the morning if I drank so for 7 months of charting I listened to this, ahhh hate nosey people!
Post # 4
Haha! This is our first month TTC after a m/c in July and there is a big family dinner on Saturday. AF is due today, and i’m pretty sure she’s coming (what a nasty [email protected]%&!) I’m planning on drinking defensively on Saturday. TTC makes me crazy!
Post # 5
Oh this drove me nuts. We were having a really hard time TTC, and anytime I didn’t drink, someone would make a comment. So then I’d have a drink just to prove them wrong. But it hurts more than anything b/c I’d RATHER have been pregnant!
But the fact that I kept getting BFNs also contributed to my drunkeness! I tried to drink away the sorrows!
Post # 6
I felt your pain. His family would offer me a glass of wine and wait with great anticipation to see if I would take it. Even if I didn’t feel like drinking, I still took it just to keep their whispers and suspicion at bay.
Now I actually am pregnant. We are waiting until 10-12 weeks to tell his family. In the meantime I have a bottle of apple juice I break one when they are here. I mix the apple juice with water to make it look like wine. I also have root beers made by Abita. Of course those root beer bottles look like beer bottles so I just throw a koozie on it and it’s believeable.
Post # 7
Haha, I love this thread. I defensive drink all the time. 🙂 I’m not a big drinker and I’d rather not have a drink more often than not, but I always have at least one to allay suspicions. DH is a great help too and will share his beer with me. It’s fun when you practically wave the drink in the face of the really nosy ones. LOL
Post # 8
This thread cracks me up.
DH’s parents have ALL THE WINE, and they drink ALL THE WINE with every single meal. I think I’ve been drunk with my in-laws more often than I’ve been drunk with DH alone. I don’t know how I’m going to keep the secret when I eventually get pregnant.
Post # 9
@ExcitedScaredBee: Haha I hear your pain! Once I really couldn’t drink as I was so horrendously hung over I was about to vomit. Result, everyone thought I was pregnant with morning sickness. If only!
Post # 10
I guess I can’t blame them because I’m guilty of it too. I have started noticing when my girlfriends aren’t drinking, but I have the decency to keep my thoughts to myself and (hopefully) not make it obvious that I’m noticing….
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
HAHA! That sounds like something I’d do! I actually considered it at my own wedding– it was 85 and I was wearing a 22lb dress, so I stuck to lemonade and water and I swear a good 1/4 of my guests asked me if I was expecting!
Post # 12
That’s pretty funny!
I’m not going to have to worry about that, because me turning down an offer of a drink is not unusual- I never developed a taste for alchohol! DH loves to let me have a sip of his just to see the face I make.
Post # 13
If I get whispers like that, I say really loudly, “I’m not pregnant, I’m just FAT.”
That shuts them up.
Post # 14
@ExcitedScaredBee: Haha me too, but I HOPE I am very discreet. I’ll have to come up with some defensive strategies for when I’m pregnant,but right now there definitely are times when I purposely have a drink. My dad asked me if I was pregnant WHILE I was drinking wine. Thanks, dad, not only are you nosy, but you think I’d be drinking too?
Post # 15
Ugh, I have stopped drinking completely for a while unrelated to TTC (although we just started TTC this month), and I have gotten the side eye since I am normally a big wine drinker. Now that we ARE TTC it is even more awkward. I’ve found green tea mixed with water or seltzer looks like a glass of white wine, if you want something to hide the fact that you aren’t drinking. Now that I have seen how nosy people can be, I will be more cautious of doing the same thing to others!
Post # 16
Ha! This is awesome. I’ve drank before just to shut everyone up, too.