Post # 1
I guess it’s just one of those days I’m having. Last week I worked 4, 12 hour shifts. 7:30pm-7:30am and then one 13 hour shift. 7:30pm-8:30am. Didn’t really have much of a weekend because I was trying to catch up on sleep and my FI had to work both days, which he normally doesn’t. Yesterday I had to work a 9 ½ hour shift. I know that’s part of growing up and being an adult… But still My FI proposed to me with a round solitaire diamond in July of this year on top of mt Washington. I love my ring very much so.
A week and a half ago we went looking at wedding bands. One that I had liked was a band and an enhancer all in one. I really liked it until we were shown this really pretty custom made ½ ct enhancer. I fell in love with it and wanted that instead. Plus the price was just right. So I picked out a different band. Left the store loving everything and couldn’t wait for my rings to come in. Well they came in today and I tried everything on and it’s too small. I posted another topic about it and everyone said it’s common and to just get them made a little bigger.
Makes me feel like my fingers are fat now because I have to get them made bigger when I’ve never had to do this before.
Looking at my solitaire with the enhancer makes me feel really depressed all of a sudden because I feel like now it’s not the original ring he gave me, I feel like I made a mistake and I don’t know why I feel this way. I can’t help looking at it now and saying I really messed it up.
My FI loves how it looks and thinks it’s really pretty.
I’m not sure if it’s just me and I’m just depressed because of all the hours I’ve been working and because I have to get everything resized. I know I do have depression and bipolar disorder and my medication got messed up big time last week because of the schedule. So I’m on the fence about thinking that’s it.
I went from having a 1/3 diamond ring to a 7/8 diamond ring and just blahhhh you think I would be happy about this.
what do you bee’s think? Sorry to be venting. I guess I’m just having a bad day. 🙁
Post # 3
When my husband and I got engaged we were broke college students. We both got money from our parents to buy $150 matching plain white gold mens’ bands (he proposed with mine, and I gave him his at the wedding). Now we’re older. He earns a lot of money, and our friends are all starting to get engaged. They have beautiful custom platinum rings with lots of stunning gemstones. I was ony for a second jealous of their beautiful rings. Our rings reflect who we were at the time we first fell in love. It’s a reminder of the journey we’ve had together. I don’t think it’s silly to feel sentimental for your original ring. And maybe you should keep it.
Post # 4
@oldmatron: Beautiful story!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2014 - Sea Ranch Lodge
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so it really comes down to what YOU think. Hope things look up for you! Sounds like it would be helpful to take a day for yourself, to relax, and decompress from all of the stress in your life 🙂
Post # 6
@QueenieB: I loved it and was really excited when it came in. Then I try it on and it doesn’t fit right… Which upset me.
I guess once everything is resized I’ll be a lot happier about it and talking to my FI he said that I shouldn’t be upset. He goes I still gave you the enhancer and it’s not like you don’t have the org. ring. You just added something to it.
Which I guess he’s right.!
Post # 7
Your rings are GORGEOUS! Just let yourself recover from the last week before making any big decisions.
Post # 8
@BrandNewBride: Thank you very much! 🙂
Yes your right. I think a lot of it has to do with last week.
Then honestly if i did do something I think i’d be kicking myself saying why did i do that!
Post # 9
@oxstardust421xo: but wait did you solder them? If not you can still wear your ering by itself some days! Anyway I voted that they’re very pretty together 🙂 more pics please!!
Post # 10
@oxstardust421xo: I would size up, and not worry about the actual number of the size. Different widths of bands fit differently. As women, we could wear one size one week and a different size the next week, depending on what day we are in our cycle.
My wedding rings that I lost 3 weeks ago were: Ering: 4.5 and wedding band: 4.25. I just replaced my ring today and I got a size 5, guess my finger swelled, lol. I bet I will have to make another trip once the cold weather sets in.
Can you maybe not go up a whole size and leave your ering the same size? If you live in a cold winter state, they might end up being too big.
Get some rest, and when you’re refreshed, you’ll love your bling bling again!! 🙂
Post # 11
@oxstardust421xo: You actually have a design very similar to what we were originally looking for! It looks beautiful. If you want to have it look less “traditionally blingy” then you could consider changing the stones in the guard to colored gem stones, eventually.
Post # 12
@wrkbrk: No I haven’t solder them together. At least not yet anyways.
Post # 13
I personally don’t really love the enhancer/band look. Sorry to be a downer, just wanted to give an opinion. I think as long as you and FI love it, you should be happy!
Post # 14
I think it’s beautiful! I love enhancers….I wish I could have gotten one.
It’s still your original ring….to me, it’s no different then just putting a wedding band with your e-ring. I agree that once you get it sized and it fits good…I’m sure you will be happy with it.
Post # 15
You probably are just feeling down from the past week and are having second thoughts. I think it’ll just take some getting use to seeing it on your hand everyday. It does look really pretty and unique! And it’s still the original diamond he gave you! This enhancer just represents your new life together as a married couple 🙂
If this makes you feel any better – I was like that all the time, with everything.. my now husband said something to me – “make a decision, and stand by your decision” – that motto’s help me with alot things in my life when I have feelings of regret. I hope that helps you!
Post # 16
I guess it depends on if you love 3-stone rings or not. Personally, I like the elegance of a solitaire. I’m sure plenty of others like the style of 3 stone rings. Then others who think anything that adds more diamonds is good.
All depends on your personal preference, I would not get hung up on the “it must look exactly like the day it was given to me,”..its still the same diamond, ring, etc… The ring is just a symbol, the relationship is what counts. Relationships grow and change, so can the rings that symbolize it.