Post # 1
After a long day at work (retail) I really just need to vent. I don’t know why or how to fix it, but apparantly I look really young. I’m not super short or tiny either, so I guess I have a “young” face 😛 I’m sure it will be a compliment in 10 years, but right now I am going to scream if someone else says “but you look so young!”
I am 24 years old and happily engaged and will be getting married in 5 months. I recently got a new job and as my coworkers slowly start to notice my ring I keep getting shocked looks from people. I am soo tired of getting questioned on why I’m getting married so young, not because people think 24 is young, but because they think I’m still a teenager!
All of our friends and family are really excited we’re getting married and don’t think we’re too young, and nobody ever says we’re too young when they ask my FI, but the second someone who doesn’t know us, sees me, they freak out thinking I’m a teenager getting married. I’m so tired of dealing with it. I just want to get the normal excited reactions from people and not have to always say “I’m actually 24 though, so it’s okay that I’m getting married” (Not that there is anything wrong with getting married younger!)
This sounds utterly stupid, but does anyone have any tips on how to look older? lol. I dress appropriately but trendy, wear makeup and do my hair nicely, but somehow people still assume I’m in my teens. Last year while volunteering in an elementary school, a parent actually asked me if I was a student (not a fond memory of mine).
I want to enjoy the wedding process and not have to deal with the weird looks from strangers and justify myself to wedding vendors, Please help me!
Post # 3
I’m 25 and I have a young face too, and I found that keeping my hair shorter with more choppy layers makes me look older than just long, straight hair. I tend to dress in nice blouses more than t-shirts too, that seems to help.
It only helps so much though, I still get carded every time, and people still sometimes have a look of disbelief that I am actually old enough. 😛 Take it as a compliment I guess!
Post # 4
OMG the nerve of some people!! well 1) don’t make your self look older! you are 24 enjoy it!!! and 2) older people will always think that someone younger than them is in there teens. My sister has a young face and is married with 2 kids she is 30 years old and the Assitant VP of a bank, she was helping an older women and the lady saw her rings and was like “Dear, don’t you think you are a lil young to be married?” and she was like well not that young, i have 2 kids too, the woman almost fell over! she was like i’m 29 years old so i dont think thats too young for marriage and kids. and the women thought she was 18! My mom gets this as well they see pictures of my sister and I and think my mom had us really young when really my mom just looks really good for her age and had us at 25 and 28. If someone says something to you again say something liek well a quarter of a century isn’t that young… or laugh it off and be like oh thank you, you flatter me that you think i’m that young. If you take it as a compliment and laugh it off they will walk away knowing they were wrong with you having to say NO i’m not a teenager i’m 24!! 🙂 good luck!
Post # 5
Oh yea- I always get carded when im by myself but if i’m with my FI i never do, because he’s salt and pepper already at 33 (started in High school) gotta love having those “young genes”
Post # 6
I have the exact opposite problem… I am 17 (I know way young) and people ALWAYS think i am in my 20’s. Its going to suck when I am 20 and I look like i’m 30 or so =(
Post # 7
lol thats funny because when i started work i was a 22 year old lawyer– which is super young to be a lawyer. So i used to wear this diamond and sapphire band my parents had gotten me on my ring finger because i thought looking married would make me look older!
Post # 8
I get that all the time and I hate it! I bought the car I have now when I was 25 and the salesperson asked me if I was old enough and had a license to test drive it! That’s just one of the many comments I’ve gotten. I think what helps is dressing more sophisticated instead of jeans and flip-flops, wearing heavier make-up, or getting a more grown up hair-do. Attitude counts a lot too. If i’m acting shy and quiet people assume i’m a teenager. If i’m confident, use bigger words, and stop saying “like” after every word it helps.
Post # 9
People confuse me for a teenager or under 21 all the time – if I wear my hair up (like a low bun) I automatically look older or also having a shorter hair cut. If I dress well instead of just wearing jeans and a t-shirt people think I look older as well.
Post # 10
Is there anything you can do to make yourself look a little older? People think i’m my age (24) when I dress it. When i REALLY want to be taken seriously (aka at work with a bunch of older men), I dress it. I always notice a huge difference in how i am perceived. I also don’t wear my long hair ‘sexy’–aka natural and long and flowing. I put it into a french braid or something. It just comes across more serious. Oh i also stopped with the trendy nail polish. I like it, but it doesn’t really scream ‘grown up’ at my office, either.
Post # 11
I’m 24, but I look like I’m 12. I currently have braces, which doesn’t help anything. I am used to having to recite my height weight and home address when going out because no one thinks my ID is real so I feel for you! I talk my age or older and dress professionally, I just have a small frame and young face, so nobody believes I’m really over 18.
Oh—and on my 21st birthday I went out to dinner with my parents and was offered the childrens’ menu. Sigh.
Post # 12
I am 25 but when I was 21 I went to a bar and as I was drinking the manager came up to me and asked to see my id….he then said I had to leave bc he thought I must have a fake, then he took the id in a lighted room and came back and apoligized and I got free drinks the rest of the night. lol. I take it as a compliment now the older I get but I used to feel offended in a way also. It would be worse if people mistook you for 40 when you are 24 right? But I can see your point too….short hair seems to do the trick I think…..and then just try to ignore those people!!!
Post # 13
@toile, OH NO!!!! Hahaha, that is too funny (albeit awful)
Post # 14
ok seriously, just to reinforce this a bit for you, you’re not that young!!! im sorry people say stupid things like that 🙁
i got into a professional career much earlier than most because i graduated high school a year early, finished college in three years and was done with my masters before i turned 22. let me tell you, i wore a lot of suits!! i wore everything really taylored, NEVER wore a french braid (its what i wore as a kid, so i think of it as being a kid thing). i do my hair every day (NEVER just pulled back into a pony tail), do my make up EVERY day, and very very rarely wear flats. i also speak very formally and dont use slang at all. i also lied about my age for years 🙂
Post # 15
@CorgiTales: um whoa. How old were you when you received your undergrad degree!?
I think I look my age, not super young or super old–I don’t wear make up and I think depending on how much you wear, you can really affect how you look in regards to your age.
Post # 16
I’m 29 and still get carded and get the, “Oh my gosh, you’re older than me!?” when I do. I used to HATE it! My sister who is 6 years younger than I am, is always thought to be older than I am. Now that I am approaching the big 3-0, I am very happy with my young looks. You just have to have a sense of humor about it and let it roll off your back!