I'm not too excited about my wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Helper bee

MarieCh84:  My partner and I aren’t doing a church wedding – we’re not religious at all (and I find many religious things sexist and incompatible with our relationship: gender roles, etc – things I’d be uncomfortable with), so it would never work for us. I’d probably dread it if we went that route. If you’re not that religious, it makes sense that you won’t be ecstatic over a church wedding, especially if you’re already married legally. The part that’s important to you (the marriage itself) has already happened. It sounds perfectly normal!

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I agree with SexyCatLady. Also, if I was doing something solely for my family, I would just do it next weekend, zero planning, any old dress and get it over with.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I’m also going to suggest that people may be asking you if you’re excited, nervous, etc. because the stereotypical bride is excited and nervous. Don’t beat yourself up for not being a stereotypical bride!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I was at my cousins wedding and one of the readings actually stated that the woman should be a servant to her husband to take care of him. My FI was almost sick. But the good news is that you can have a say in what gets read out in your ceremony. Just because you have a religious ceremony doesnt mean you have to go along with all of it. Read through and pick some bible verses that are nice and apply outside of religion as well- that way you will feel much less uncomfortable and much more that the ceremony relates to you two. I would possibly hold a similar ceremony structure and readings to your civil ceremony except inside a church. 

I think theres parts of a wedding that everyone dread- some people dread the vows, some the speeches etc.. Try to limit the bad parts for you (the ceremony and religious aspects) to what you can cope with- keep it short and simple without all the religious references and focus on getting excited for the reception 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

MarieCh84:  I’m not already married or doing a religious ceremony but I am still getting really bored of wedding talk etc.We know what we’re doing, everything is booked etc I’d like to talk about something else when I see people. I’m expecting to be excited the week before but until then I’d like to go back to normal life for a bit.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

MarieCh84:  If you just want to get the family together, have you considered doing just a reception or party to celebrate your civil union? If you feel that you need to have a church ceremony, then you can still do that without having a bunch of religious language & stuff you don’t agree with in the ceremony. You can still make it applicable to you.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2005 - 1880's Chapel

Please don’t feel bad at all! I really just wanted to be married and wasn’t overly excited about my wedding either. It was very small, modest(I wore a prom dress instead of a wedding dress, we used silk flowers, etc….), and quick. I just hate being the center of attention. I didn’t have any baby showers either and would have skipped my college graduation had my parents not gotten upset. I am not a fancy person and I just feel like it is all a big waste. In the end I am happy with the wedding we had and remember it fondly, but I would NEVER want to go through it again.

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