Post # 1
I’ve tried on plenty of dresses. I like them. There’s nothing wrong with most of them. I just don’t love any of them. I don’t know if I’ll ever love a dress.
I’ve about had it with shopping. They always turn out the same – I try on 5 or 6 dresses, like most of them, try on some belts and veils, and leave the store with a consultant’s card – and I’m just really ready to be done with it. I feel like not being able to decide on a dress is holding me back from making other decisions. And, despite the fact that my date is a while away, I’m on a planning time crunch.
At this point, I’m seriously considering just finding a basic tulle ball gown for cheap, adding a sparkly sash, and calling it a day. I’ve seen every style known to bridal designers on by now, so I know it would look fine. I would probably never love it, but I would be content with it.
Post # 3
Where are you in GA? Could you get to Bridals by Lori? Surely she would have something for you!
Post # 4
@mepayne: I felt the same way! I went to 11-12 different shops and some I went to 2-3 times! I like a LOT of dresses but i NEVER got that feeling! I guess I watched too much SYTTD and saw brides on here saying they cried and bla, bla, bla. I went all over NJ and then to NYC to Kleinfeld’s and still….nothing. Eventually I bought a dress that I tried on in 4 different shops that everyone loved that I felt the most comfortable in.
Relax, you will find a dress. If I did there is hope for anyone! Haha
Post # 5
Do you have any front runners or any types of dresses you really like? Maybe start there or show pictures you like at let the consultant take it from there.. Not sure what stores you have gone to but I would suggest a bridal salon versus a chain store.
Post # 6
@Mrs Canuck: I’m just north of Atlanta, so I could, but the designers they carry are waaay out of my $1,200 budget. It wouldn’t be worth my time.
@gelaine22: Holy moly, you’ve been more places than me! I’m at 6 or 7 and I’m over it. The question I hate the most is, “Can you see yourself walking down the aisle in this?” Well, yeah. I can. Along with 20 other dresses. That’s not the problem.
@mkelove: A few styles, but really no specific dresses. I want a pretty big dress, and I don’t like mermaids or anything that flares out more than a couple inches below my butt. That’s about it. As for stores, I’ve been to every salon within a 30-40 minute radius, including David’s Bridal (which was AWFUL), Alfred Angelo (which was good, no complaints), and smaller salons.
Of the 13 tabs of dresses I have pulled up, here’s a few examples:
Post # 7
@mepayne: Wow, thank you for this post. I thought I was the only person who felt like this and it is nice to know I am not alone. I like a lot of dresses, but I don’t really LOVE any of them. Can I see myself walking down the aisle in this dress? Yes. And that one. And that one. And that one.
I am so tired of going to stores. I am also ready to just get something cheap online and be done with it. I am 7 months out and the dress has been my biggest headache since we got engaged 14 months ago. I can’t make a decision because people keep making me feel like if I’m not a sobbing mess over a dress, then it isn’t “the one.” So I keep looking. But I’m not the type of person who turns into a sobbing mess over an article of clothing anyway. So I just don’t know.
Sorry, kind of threadjacked you. Just saying, I can completely sympathize!
Post # 8
@HeyKaraoke: Yes. Yes. Yes to what you just said. All of it, except being 7 months out. I’m almost 15 months out, so I have plenty of time (and maybe that’s part of the problem), but I need to be mostly planned by August.
My “I give up” plan is this dress and a sash something like these
I tried on the dress with a very similar sash in the store… didn’t love it, just like every other dress. My mom really liked it. It was comfy and simple and less than half my budget.
Post # 9
@mepayne: Well I think your “I give up” dress is stunning 🙂 the second sash is beautiful. And less than half your budget? Perfect.
Post # 10
@HeyKaraoke: Yeah, it’s a pretty solid back-up plan. $525 for the dress and like $200 for the sash. I’m still hoping to find something I love, but Best Bridal Prices is having an extra promotion all of March, so I think I’ll make that my cutoff since it means I can get my veil for free.
Post # 11
I think there is way too much pressure on having ‘the moment’ when you’re dress shopping. I’m the same in the sense that there are probably a dozen dresses I can feasibly see myself walking down thr aisle in. I think in the end you just have to be happy in the dress you choose, and if it ticks all the boxes – within budget, fits your style, is flattering, appropriate to your venue, you feel beautiful and confident in it – then it’s a pretty good decision. I think yout back-up dress is beautiful!
Post # 12
Maybe you should take a break there Are new Spring collections coming out … Personally I never got that feeling either and the dress I wanted I couldn’t try on because it hasn’t come out so I didn’t want to purchase something 1500$ blindly so I am getting a replica for 1/3 of the price so it won’t hurt put seriously write down what you really want In the dress like lace or no lace to trim down your options I hope this helps good luck . Btw I hated when people would is this dress you want to get married in , is this the one .. Like wow ! There calm down
Post # 13
I looked through SO many wedding websites, and eventually, decided that I wanted something differant.. I didn’t any anything like any dress I’d ever seen.
And then I ran into dhgate.com – a chinese website that offers just about everything, and they have a HUGE selection of dresses. And some extremely unique ones!
Maybe you could browse their website? Most of their dresses are super cheap, mine will cost around $150.
Here’s mine, which I LOVELOVELOVELOVE.
Post # 14
@jenilynevette: is that your actual dress or just a stock picture of what you are getting … Just becarefull not all sellers on dhgate are reputable , my cousin went with babyonline and she was happy so like I said if your going to spend money I don’t care how much it is you still want to be happy with the final product so do your research !
Post # 15
@mepayne: I love your “I give up!” dress. It’s stunning!
Post # 16
I don’t think everyone has to have an “OMG I LOVE THIS DRESS I AM CRYING” moment, not at all. I think it is just fine to be content with your dress.
That said, it sounds like you are OVER hassling with a dress. In that case, I’d either order online ONLY from Jasmine’s Bridal or I would go ahead and order one from a store that you already tried on. Because the thing is, if the dress arrives and it is poorly made or ill-fitting or even needs a ton of alterations (and that definitely happens with some of the cheaper online sites), you’ve got a whole new hassle on your hands. You’re either starting over at square one looking for something else (and wasted part of your budget), or you’re dealing with trying to find someone for alterations. A shop will take care of all of that for you.
I’m definitely pro ordering online, but you have to be okay with the fact that it could arrive and could be a whole new set of problems. Something to think about! If my goal was “Easy & Done,” I’d probably go buy something off the rack from David’s Bridal.