(Closed) I'm over this whole wedding planning thing. :-

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
583 posts
Busy bee

Ugh, I feel for you!  I was at that point a while back, I was piiiissed.  What helped me was to list every single thing that I had to do/make a decision on/buy/figure out on a word document.  Then I moved things around by priority.  Some things I was able to just completely delete because I realized, I didn’t give a shit.  Then I put this list into a time order like

1 Month Out: blah, blah blah

2 Weeks Out: blah, blah, blah

Week of: ____, ____, ___

Day of: ____, ____

As I do something, I change it to the “strike through” font so it’s crossed off.  That way I see everything I accomplish and feel really good about it, and it also feels so much better to have my list out of my mind so it’s not banging around in there distracting me and stressing me out.

Post # 4
23636 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Aww honey! Big hugs to you!  Soon you will be getting married and looking back on it with fondness.  I promise. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 6
14 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can relate, and I agree about those standard timeline/to-do lists online, they are full of things I’m not doing so I made my own using theirs as an example and it is really helpful. When I’ve felt super stressed, I’ve developed a couple little coping strategies. One is asking a friend, or maid of honor for a little extra help, and another is planning little breaks, like after I spend a week or two accomplishing a few key tasks, then I take the following week off from planning altogether. Being so close to your date, I totally understand you may not be able to take a week off, but what about two or three days in a row just for a little break to clear your head? One thing you also might want to consider if you’re getting really stressed is finding a day-of, week-of, or month-of wedding coordinator. These can be surprisingly affordable, and if it helps make the day more special, calm, and joyful for you, it’s probably worth it. They take over the logistical things leading up to the day so you don’t have to be stressed rigt before your wedding, and if you ask for extra help with decision making they’re there for you and will help. Hope this is somewhat helpful! Hang in there!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hang in there! There are good days and bad ! I can email you some ceremony examples if u want.

Post # 8
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i feel like that to, especially now! most of the big stuff i taken care of, but it’s all the little details (like songs, timelines, etc) that need to get done and every day i think of something else.

but definitely break down your list, so it doesn’t seem as overwhelming! i wrote deadlines and other to-do’s on my calendar so i would know what i needed to get done by the end of the month/week. it definitely helped keep me sane  and focused and it reassures that i AM getting stuff done. cause sometimes i feel like i haven’t done crap, lol.


Post # 9
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am glad I am not the only one! 

Post # 10
26 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally feel the same way! We met with a friend yesterday to talk about wedding planning, and they just made it worse! I feel like I have so much to do- songs, confirm vendors, finish DIY centerpieces, finishing buy last minute decorations…. the list goes on!! I know we’ll get through this and it will be beautiful but it’s difficult. I now understand why people hire wedding planners. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was in a similar situation not too long ago, and my response was to let it all go haha. Now we find we’re not having centrepeices, or wedding-favours and I’ve let the decorator for the cake run wild. I handed it over and thats the last of it. Ultimately, no matter what we eat, or what we sit on, or how the place looks, I’ll be marrying the love of my life that day. So long as we have the marriage license and the celebrant we’re good. I’ve discovered I probably don’t make a good bride because I just don’t care about the little things.

The hardest thing is that other people care, they keep asking me about all these details that I don’t give a rats about, it’s like they WANT me to stress out!

Post # 13
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

@roweboat:  Argh I feel you. Some of the crap people come up with never even crossed my mind. I often just stare at them for prolonged periods trying to imagine why on earth I should care about the way my napkins are folded, least of all why THEY should care!! 

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