I'm Overly-Sensitive, SO is Insensitive!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@LittlePumpkin:  I understand he is busy but you are his wife. He needs to make you a priority and not take your relationship for granted. It is a partnership, not a one way street with you doing all of the work. That is not fair and you are going to end up resenting him – if you aren’t already. No matter how busy my husband is, he makes time to talk to me. In my view, that’s how it should be.

I know that I am his number one concern, even when he’s busy, and your husband is not taking the necessary time to nurture your relationship. I personally don’t feel that you are overreacting in this situation. You have expressed your concerns and he has ignored them. I would try again to get your point across and if not…then you need to decide next steps.

Post # 5
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@LittlePumpkin:  To say you don’t have time to send a text message when it takes a matter of seconds is just inconsiderate (and an obvious lie). You are not even making his priority list, which certainly wouldn’t work for me.

Fuck the cupcakes, make time to connect with me!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

This sounds like a deeper issue to me than him just simply being too lazy in the relationship. I think either he’s building up resentment or there is something else major going on. “Studying” is not a good excuse to not check in with your significant other. You need to ask him why he is acting the way is acting and that you expect a truthful response, to quit playing games with you.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@LittlePumpkin:  It is possible he is choosing to spend the free time and energy that he does have on someone else? He certainly sounds lazy and distant in your relationship…it’s not like you’ve been married 50 years so something must have happened to trigger this.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LittlePumpkin:  This seems like a red flag to me. He may have feelings for her and is investing his time and energy on her rather than you. It may not be the case but it is something to watch out for.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@LittlePumpkin:  I’d be concerned there was someone else if my husband suddenly stopped paying attention to me and stopped being intimate with me. We have very open communication so I would hope that we would be discussing any potential issues before they turned into that.

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