- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Okay, I know moving is hard, and it often brings out the worst in people. And let me say that Fiance get along fantastically almost all the time. We have a couple of times when we butt heads, but we’re working with it, and it just gets better and better.
I’m frustrated at the idea of picking a place to live without getting to see it. I’m frustrated about trying to come up with an amount that I think is fair for his company to compensate us for the move, and I’m really frustrated at the number of apartments who won’t take Quil.
Fiance is upset because we can’t tell his son until after Easter weekend that we’re having to move (we’re filing an amendment to the custody agreement first), and then it’ll only be six weeks until we’re gone, it’s going to devestate him. He’s upset that for now, we can’t tell everybody because it hasn’t been announced to his team yet.
I’m scared to move all the way across the country from my family. Logically I know it’ll all be fine, and if it’s horrible, we’ll just come back, but emotionally it feels like a lot.
So this morning, when we fought and I asked for an apology, he broke out the “I’m sorry you made me mad at you, and you made me act like a jerk” and you can just imagine how well I took that. It’s just a crappy, overwhelming, scary time, and a fight doesn’t make it any better. And since he’s normally so sweet and attentive and compassionate, any harsh words are just that much harder to take.
And, lastly (whew!) we’re arguing about movers vs. diy. He says “I’m strong, I can do anything.” I say “it’ll be Arizona in JUNE, and we only have three days to get from Ohio to Arizona, and get our stuff unloaded, and I want HELP.”