Post # 1
I’ll admit, I certainly have a possessive streak. My husband is mine. I get angry if I think someone is flirty with him, too close for comfort, etc.
He tells me this woman from work called him “love” in an email. Apparently she does this with every guy, calls them “hun” or “sweetheart”.
Well, I’m pissed. I trust him – I know it means nothing to him. But to me, it’s so wildly inappropriate to call married men these kinds of pet names. Not to mention, just totally unprofessional.
Am I overreacting? Well… I know I was overreacting when I said I was going to kick her ass! Ha! I’ve calmed down with regard to that. But I’m still really annoyed!
Post # 3
I think you’re over reacting. I call lots of people love.. it certainly never means anything.
Post # 4
I also think you’re over reacting, some people just use pet names for everyone. I used to work in a call centre, and the lady beside me called every custome either “love, dear, sweetie, etc” you said she calls everyone these names so I don’t see the big deal
Post # 5
I think you’re over reacting. It’s nothing. Some people just call others that ~ with no meaning.
I have a contractor who calls me sweatheart(right in front of my SO) No big deal.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@JemmaWRX: A lot of British people and those that are descended from Brits call people love, pet, whatever. I think you might be making a bit of a big deal out of this …
Post # 7
I think you are over reacting. I work with a lot of seniors and get called love and sweetheart all the time. I would seriously side eye my husband if he took issue with it.
Post # 8
Yes, overreacting. I have a coworker who calls absolutely everyone ‘love’. It sounds very weird when she does it to me because she always says your first name immediately before it, and mine is Courtney. lol. But really, a posessive/jealous streak isn’t exactly an admirable quality and usually leads to drama getting stirred up for absolutely no reason. Let it go.
Post # 9
Ha ha this post is so funny!
I totally get where your coming from, I’d hate it if my h2bs collegues called him hun or love. I’d want to punch them in the face too ha ha
lucky for me they are all ugly and fat, h2b refers to one of them as ‘the penguin’ because of her manly wide shoulders lol
There was one times though….
h2bs friend at work was using h2bs Facebook as his phone was broken and he needed to contact his gf, I got the wrong end of the stick and then branded her a slag! All in all do think before you go saying anything as it may backfire! Like it did in my case, as I got a message back off h2bs friend who wasn’t too impressed that I had called his gf a slag! Oops.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
Seriously ….. Major over reaction!!! I have many British friends who call everyone love. Id really get that possessive streak in check before it gets out of control.
Post # 11
Where I live it’s common for people to call each other “love”. It means absolutely nothing and no one in their right minds would be offended by it.
My FI is from a different part of the country, where people actually call each other “my lover”.
You’re making a big deal out of nothing.
Post # 12
@Kathryn4chris: Wow. I’m sorry but that just makes it sound like you never broke out of your high school mean girl mode. ‘The penguin’? Seriously? Way to be cruel for absolutely no reason!
Post # 13
Yep, lots of Brits/Aussies (myself included) call each other love, darling, pet, sweet etc. It’s just a platonic term of endearment. A guy I know used to call all of his female friends “my love”, but it wasn’t a romantic thing.
Post # 14
@JemmaWRX: I’ll go against the grain and agree with you here. There’s no reason for it in an email, no less, where she should be professional, you’re right!
Post # 15
@beb1972: I’m with you. If your husband was at the grocery store and the checkout lady said that to him, I would say you’re overreacting. At work, using a pet name is very unprofessional. I would never do that at my job, especially not in an email.
Post # 16
While that form of address may not be the most professional, or work appropriate, if that’s all it takes to rile you up – I’d say you’re overreacting. I think a more healthy reaction would be “I trust my FI and know she doesn’t mean anything to him. Wow, that loose language doesn’t improve her professionalism. Her problem.”