- 3 years ago
- Wedding: dont know
So the ring I picked out has been bought and all that needs to be done is for my lovely man, who I’ve been with for 5 years to pop the question. We were gushing about it for weeks! I haven’t seen it since it got its band changed and resized so it’ll be more of a surprise. My fiance and I have been trying to come up with ways to tell my parents for months and they have always expressed that they want to be asked for a blessing. I was more than happy to oblige them. We were going to take my parents out to eat and tell them then. It all goes wrong when I go on vacation with my parents (I still live with them btw) and we see my cousin who asks if I have a boyfriend and I said “yes for 5 years” she asked if we were thinking about getting married and my mom gets all weird and yells “god I hope not!” Now my cousin thinks I have some wife beater boyfriend judging by the look on her face, she asks my dad what’s wrong with him and he just shrugs and goes “he’s alright nothing I can complain about” I confronted my mom and asked why she’d do that and told her how immature and rude that was. Her reason for it is “I don’t like him, he’s not ambitious enough.” He’s putting himself through college and the air force reserves to be an aerospace engineer but apparently that’s not good enough. She also complains he’s not good looking enough and that my “friends don’t like him.” which isn’t true. The only friends I had problems with regarding him were either friends with an ex of mine or an ex of his and that was back in high school. I told him of this because I don’t want him to humiliate himself by asking my parents. I’m really afraid right now because I am still a student and until I graduate with my bachelor’s in December and get a full time job I just won’t be able to live independently and he will be away at basic training. I’m afraid if I tell them about our future they will kick me out or just constantly scream at me. I am unemployed right now but I’ll probably be starting a job in the next week but I doubt it’ll be enough to live off of. All I want is for my mom to stop being so harshly judgmental and give up on me being with some preppy banker, because I rejected that idea back in preschool, it’s just not my cup of tea. This should be a happy time but I’m just stressing out that it’ll be catastrophic.