Post # 1
I feel very sad today because for the 3rd time in our relationship I really thought he was going to propose, but didn’t. I really tell myself every time he plans a “fun surprise” that its not going to be an engagement, but everyone else tells me I’m wrong and that he loves me and we’re perfect for each other ect. One of my friends even bet me it would happen this weekend… *sigh as facepalm*
So it was the celebration of our 2 year and I had no idea where we were going, all I was told was to dress fancy. He, Mr. Khaki and Tee, wore a suit complete with a tie. I’d never seen that and didn’t think I would.
We went to a ballet and then to the most wonderful restauraunt and I had a great time and really enjoyed myself, we walked around town and just kept smiling/kissing/ I love you repeatedly because we’re sappy. But on my way home I cried a little because he makes the most mundane things feel magical and he really loves me. He told me he’s going to be my husband, but he still hasn’t asked.
So today I’m just feeling a little blue, I have been unofficially on Mr. Bee’s plan and haven’t really mentioned it outside of his cousins impending wedding so I’m not obsessing. I’m feeling really jaded about it all right now, not to mention my old co-worker has invited me to the Bridal Rama going on right now because I’m just “so good at weddings”. I said I didn’t feel good.
Just thank goodness its not Friday night and I’m stuck watching TLC’s wedding obsession, because I can’t seem to be able to change the channel.
Does anyone have any advice to get out of these not yet engaged blues?
Thanks for reading ladies (and possibly gentlemen, but highly doubtful).
Post # 3
I would just try to enjoy the relationship as it is now. I really f-ed up a nice date once because I assumed he’d propose. He did a few days later, and I wish I’d been more patient. In the meantime, I’d ask him not to say things like how he’ll be your husband. I don’t think that’s fair. He can say that after you’re engaged!
Post # 4
I know it gets really tough, and it makes it hard to enjoy the nice things he is doing for you, but it will happen eventually. Just try to find a new hobby or something else to focus your attention on, and stop watching wedding shows!
Post # 5
@MrsNerdy: Yeah and I wouldn’t go on the wedding websites either. I know there’s a whole waiting section, but it will just make you think about it more! Trust me from experience.
Post # 6
This was happening to me too! Fiance would tell me he had a surprise for me, or would give me hints about things that made it sound like he was going to pop the question, this went on for months! I thought he was going to propose on my birthday, he had mentioned something that made it sound like he had gotten me a ring, I was awake all night, could not sleep i was so excited becasue I was thinking “he is going to propose tomorrow” well it came and went and no ring, no proposal……5 months later he did pop the question, and I was totally not expecting it, becasue he did it in a way i was not expecting! It was wonderful but i remember feeling the way you feel now and it really sucks! Stay off the wedding sites, and try to stop thinking about it, your day will come soon and then you will look back and laugh 🙂
Post # 7
I was in the same situation. We went on a cruise together and I thought he was going to propose, his family did, my faMily did, etc. He even took me to the back of the ship to watch the sunset and said all these sappy things. Thought for sure it’s happening now and nothing.
Two months later I asked if he even had a ring and he didn’t. I was very frustrated because he would say the same things your SO says or take me on romantic dates. He still didn’t propose for 2 more months. It was difficult so I feel your pain!
We had also been living together and I was self conscious about the fact that we were living together without a ring.
Post # 8
Aww, it will come your way! He seems to really love you and cares for you. Guys just don’t think like us and they want everything to be “perfect”. Not maybe the setting etc, but the feeling. It will come along, just stick to Mr Bees plan. Seems to have worked for a few bees here at least! 😀 Hugs!
Post # 9
Have you talked to him about how you’re feeling? Has he given you an idea of a timeline? Have you even discussed a timeline for future plans that works for both of you? I haven’t read your older posts, but just wanted to make sure you weren’t holding out and making yourself crazy in silence! You both deserve to have a voice about this life-changing step!
Post # 10
I’m sad to hear you’re having a rough time. I’m in the same position, but we’re long distance so I think that makes the waiting worse. I don’t really buy all the girls who say to “get a hobby”, I’m in grad school part time, work full time, run 2-3 times a week and go dancing (Argentine tango) at least once a week. I don’t really have the time/energy for another hobby!
My bf and I don’t usually argue, but we have been lately and his responses give me the impression he’s not ready to get married yet, which kind of pisses me off because we talked about it lots last year and he even said once he wanted to get engaged before I moved away (a move that he encouraged me to take). Some days I want to tough things out but other days I don’t think it would be worth it, since he seems to see marriage as “the end” where as I see it as “the beginning”.
I’m sorry you’re in this situation. It’s no fun at all, and I wish I had some advice that would truly help. 🙁
Post # 11
Nothing really to add to whats already been said – so i’ll send you a hug
Post # 12
Oh, hon, hang in there! I know it’s hard. You two sound like me and my Fiance, sappy and so much in love! We even joke about how disgustingly in love we are, lol. When I was in the “waiting” stage it was so hard, so I feel your pain. Every time he would get loving, emotional or we would be on a special and wonderful date the first thing that would pop in my head was, “Is this going to be it?” And when it wasn’t I was a little sad and upset. But I always kept it to myself and tried to stay in the moment and just enjoy him and where we were. My patience paid off and he proposed the second week in January instead of New Year’s Eve like I’d suspected. Just know that he loves you very much and has told you he will be your husband. Men don’t say things like that if they don’t mean it. For all you know he has big plans for the proposal and is making payments on the ring right now. It is hard waiting but know it’s coming. The only thing that got me through was my FI’s assurance that it would happen, I just didn’t know when. And when it does happen it will be well worth the wait!
Post # 13
I have gone through boughts just like this. What gets me through is knowing that however/whenever he does propose will be perfect. If you think it’s a great moment for it, just realize he has something even better in mind! When it happens you’ll be glad it happened the way it did and none of these other times you have thought it would happen will even compare.