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I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely :( If you were on the west coast I would be more than happy to take YOU out for drinks!
I'm so sorry! I know how that felt, when I moved here I felt so alone even though my husband was here. Do you have any people your age at work that you can spend time with?
Oh Boston Bee I'm so sorry you are feeling alone. It will get better. Have you seen if there are any classes you'd be interested in taking that are reasonably priced (workout classes, zumba, arts & crafts etc?)
Try looking into programs at your local library. They are often free and very interesting/intellectual. If you're religious at all church can be a good place to meet people. And don't discount the "older" people that you met at the dog park if they seemed nice. Sometimes it is good to have friends of all different ages as they introduce you to new things. What about crafting classes or an exercise class at the local gym? It might also be a good time to do some "home organizing" that you don't have a chance to do when things are busy! :)
Question: Was the moved planned before the "break up" or did it happen because of the "break up"? I think that would make a difference on your perception .. .
The library is a great suggestion!
Volunteering can be a great way to meet people as well. Plus it's a great way to keep busy...
There is one girl at work who I have hung out with before, but now that money is an issue, I can't really do anything. I have about $850 in my checking account, and my rent is $585, so I don't really have any money after my other bills. And I know my parents would give me some money if I asked, but I hate asking them, so that's a last resort for me. I think I may just take Melvin to the dog park more because the people there are so nice, and it's nice to sit and chat with people for an hour or so. I would love to do some exercise classes, but again, money is an issue. I wonder if there are any free running clubs around the Tampa/St. Pete area.
@puppymom: the move was planned before the breakup. I have a summer job in Tampa, but I'm moving back to Tallahassee in August. I already found a new apartment. (My bf and I were living together.)
I am sorry that you feel this way. you will find friends i am sure...just hang in there :)
I second puppymom... Also, once you start school you will meet people in no time and i am sure they will have a lot in common with you. Most students are living somewhere they are not used to and have money problems :)
Keep your head up, things will get better for you! Keep us posted....you always have us to talk to :)
Hugs Boston, I've been there. I would second teh library, but would also add taht if you like any sports like soccer etc, finding a pick up game can be a really good and cheap (free!) way to meet age appropriate new people. Meetup.com is the perfect starting point.
If you aren't into sports, then try a book club. Lots of them are geared at younger people, and sometimes singles. Good luck!
@Mr. Bee: Once my job is over in 2 weeks, I'm going to be volunteering with Guardian ad Litem, so that should keep me somewhat busy for the 3 weeks before I move back to Tallahassee.
I'm sorry. I was in your shoes at a time too, and I know how crappy it feels. My ex and I broke up about 3 weeks after I moved out here, just out of school, no money, no savings, new job, crappy crappy new job.... and while I knew some people, I was just starting to get to know them. I met my FI 6 months later :-) Stay strong, you never know what's right around the corner!
Have you tried to hook up with your college or sorority alumni group in the Tallahassee area?? I've found that is a fun way to meet people with a common interest...
@Boston Bee: Hang in there girlie, anything is possible in the short term. Besides that beautiful FL weather is FREE and you've got your puppy buddy to keep you company.
Being away might be a "Plus" because when you get back your breakup will be old news!
You could try looking up book clubs or running clubs or anything on meetup.com . It lets you search by location and activity. It's pretty cool. I wonder if there are even dog walking/play groups that you could look up to find some more dog owners your own age. Bonding over pets is fun and free.
I know it's hard but could you get together with these people just to hang out? Have them over for dinner (you have to eat anyway) or have a potluck or even just spend time together at a local park?
Sorry that you're having a tough time. :( I've definitely been there.
Have you tried hanging out at your local coffee shop? That's what I do when I'm either lonely or just don't feel like being at home, and want to be around other people. I usually go and take my laptop, a book, or some sort of project. You meet a lot of 'regulars' that way, and it can almost feel like a second home after awhile. I actually found out about a weekly knitting group that they hold there, and I go to that every week. Now I have a really great group of knitting friends, and through that a ton of connections. (Our minister, for example, is a knitting friend's husband.)
That sounds like it's a really sucky situation.....right now. Keep your head up, things will change, I promise! Before you know it, you'll meet some people and they'll ask you to hang out. I know it's especially tough to meet girls, and sometimes (especially in times like these, after a break-up) you just need a girl friend. That's what we're here for though! :) This is a great support system, and there's girls here to talk 24/7. If you live in FL, the beach is free right? Based by your avatar, you're a cute girl, TRUST ME, if you go to the beach, you won't be lonly long.
I know it's tough those first few weeks after a break-up, but I really admire your strength in making that decision, ON TOP of moving to a new city alone. You got it going on right now girl, and you have the opportunity to make your life whatever you want it to be! Your slate is clean, go and paint your vision! :) P.S. If you ever wanna talk, about whatever, you can always find me around here. :) (((HUGS)))
boston i am in the same boat money and a break up lets be pen pals lol.
for real i am so sorry i know exactly how you feeel me and my fi broke up 3 weeks ago also i am so sorry tohear that it sounds like u are a string independent woman and will not be alone for that long sounds like u have plans i am so sorry to hear you are lonely i am so lonely tooo it sucks. i ganied 10 lbs i dont know what to do either
Oh BostonBee...I'm so sorry to hear you're so lonley. I know you're moving back to FL in a few weeks, but until then, definitely keep trying to meet people while walking your dog or taking him to the dog parks. Or, if you're looking for stimulating conversation, we're always available for a little while!
Hopefully, once you move back to FL, things will start to look up for you. Until then, keep your head up and be as friendly as possible!!
I hope this dosen't sound like a stupid suggestion, but at least until the money situation clears up, chat online on one of those free internet dating sites. You don't have be looking for a relationship to sign up. You can also meet a lot of people your own age and make plans to have coffee (it's cheap!)....I guess I say all this because I was in your shoes too and I met my fiance on a dating site so I know there are good people out there once you tredge through all the sludge ;)
aw it'll all be better when you go back to school. 3L year rocks. You have so much less to do, you're usually more set in a job situation, and you can just hang out a lot more. I made some of my best life long friends in law school and I'm sure you will too. Get involved in the student bar, join some groups, and go to some happy hours. Also find a study buddy early for bar/bri bc it is a life saver for your sanity and for studying!!
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So I broke up with my bf about 3 weeks ago. I'm not regretting the decision. I know that I don't want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I feel so alone now. I moved to a new city right before the breakup, so I'm here with no friends. I go to work and come home, and that's it. I take my dog for walks around the apartment complex and bring him to the dog park once or twice a week. I met some people at the dog park, but they're older (like 40-55, and I'm 23), so they're not people I would want to meet up with for a drink or anything. On top of that, I'm having money problems, so any chance I had to go out for drinks with people disappeared. I have to save to pay next month's rent until my fall loan money comes in. (I'm going into my last year of law school.) I just feel so lame spending all of my free time at home watching movies by myself. I am studying for the Patent Bar and applying for clerkships and jobs for after I graduate, but outside of stuff that I have to do, I have nothing. It's so depressing.