- 6 years ago
I’m new here, I found this site googling information on how to deal with what I am going through. I’m divorced, out of an almost 10 year marriage, which I am good with. It’s been 2 years and I met this wonderful man who is 4 years younger than I am. He’s currently going through a divorce but we both fell head over heels in love with each other from the moment we met.
He moved in with me 3 months ago and we’re making plans on getting married soon, his divorce will be over with this summer. Well, he called me today with some news which I don’t really know how to take. We honestly have the very best relationship, no arguing, we laugh and love all the time. We are truly solemates, I feel anyway. And he treats me the best I have EVER been treated…
But… here is the catch. He is the soul caregiver of his elderly Grandmother (she raised him) and she lives in a house he owns, he pays all her bills and helps her with everything. Well, his Dad who had agreed to live with her to help keep an eye on her and my guy paying all the bills, has fallen down on his word, she is suffering from it and he’s kicking him out. Therefore, he called me today telling me that if he can’t get somone he can afford to pay to stay with her, he’ll need to move in with her and help take care of her.
Where does this leave me??? I’m not trying to be selfish or anything and I understand why he feels he needs to do this. But I have gotten so used to him being with me, I don’t know how I will be without him?!?! That sounds crazy I know, but I am devestated in a sense. He said we are still on go and fine, it’s just something he needs to do. And again, I get that. But this scares me to death…
I don’t want anything between he and I to change. I am really scared… and sad to think of him leaving.