(Closed) I'm Screwed I can't get my MIL to our ceremony site. Advise please

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Personally I’d move the ceremony so she could be there. IMO having the groom’s mom witness her son’s wedding is more important than any attachment to a specific location. You could always try to go do some photos at your original ceremony spot so you won’t miss it entirely.

Post # 4
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415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Have you tried a test run on the path with a wheel chair?  I don’t know about her, but I would be really embarrassed being carried down 10 flights of stairs.  Maybe find a third option?

Post # 5
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Can’t you have the ceremony at her house or in her garden or your house or someone elses house? or something? You could always keep the other venue for pictures. 

Post # 6
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12833 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with PP – you should probably pick a different ceremony site so your FMIL can attend.  The site is gorgeous, but it’s not accessible for one of the most important guests in your wedding, so it’s not suitable anymore.   Sorry!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

they have beach wheel chairs. Maybe you can rent  or borrow one from the local lifeguard?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would try walking the path with a wheelchair before you make any other arrangements. It’s hard to see the scale of the path in the picture, but I would think a light wheelchair would be able to make it.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do you have a paraplegic association where you live? I would try contacting them or the local MD association to see if they could point you in the right direction to borrow a wheelchair especially designed for hiking trails.

Post # 10
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Can you show us the stairs?

Post # 11
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3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We are using a beach wheelchair for one of our guests. The city is renting it to us for free! One of Josh’s friend’s wive’s has MS and is completely bound to a wheelchair. I agree that being carried would be embarrasing. I’d definitely check the beach wheelchair route, otherwise you need to take the importance of your FMIL being at her son’s wedding over the venue that you want. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@julies1949:  You’re so good, that’s a great idea.

I was going to say, if your options are between a narrow, sandy path OR a ton of stairs, the path seems way better obviously.  Wheelchairs nowadays are super sturdy and can handle the sandy path.

Post # 13
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)

I agree with the other posts…try to see if a wheelchair for for this type of ground/area could be rented….. also this might sound crazy but could you put her on a normal chair and have two people carry her? Ive had to carry elders up stairs….. think of the weddings where they lift the bride and groom up on chairs….. Im sure you have to have two strong guys coming.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think you need to pick a wheelchair friendly ceremony site. Not having her there and comfortable at her son’s wedding would be inexcusable. The fact you are getting married infront of those you love and those that love you is far more important then some silly location.

Post # 15
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Those bushes look really big. Would the site allow you to cut the bushes on one side so u could push the chair over them? The bushes would grow back.

 

If you are going to have your ceremony here, I would suggest you have your mother in law in place before any guests arrive and then at the end, make the excuse to the guests that they are to leave first as the bridal party and parents only must stay behind to take pictures. This might spare her the embarrassment of being wheeled in and out. Also before the guests arrive hide the wheelchair. 

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