I'm Secretly Planning Our Wedding :)

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: When did you start planning your wedding?
    Before you got engaged : (86 votes)
    35 %
    After you got engaged : (117 votes)
    48 %
    Girl please, I've been planning my whole life! : (26 votes)
    11 %
    I hate planning! : (15 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    1951 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @lina010:  LOL. I’m engaged, have a wedding planner, and am being so damn lazy about stuff. We still have plenty of time, but I’m so darn busy at work that planning my own wedding was really out of the question. 

    But hey, the more you get done now, the less you have to do later – and then you get more time to relax and enjoy being engaged 🙂

    Post # 4
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    86 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think it’s precious! And as long as it’s not taking away from other priorities in your life right now, the worst thing that could happen is you have a change of plans or ideas before the “real” work starts.  So at least, you can consider it practice and at best, you’ve got a ton of work completed already.  There’s nothing like being prepared, especially before such an eventful occasion.  Best wishes!

    Post # 5
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    1241 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Oh, I’m planning. I’m not in depth as you, but I bought a planner to write down all of my ideas in, and I’m looking up pricing on some of the more obscure things that we need.  I’m still waiting for the proposal. I refuse to buy or book things until then, but I’m looking at it all!

    Post # 6
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    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’m doing some planning, but not as much as you–you’re very organized!

    I’ve been coming up with potential guestlists, colors, browsing venues, thinking of various details…

    I didn’t want to freak SO out with too much advance planning lol

    Post # 7
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    752 posts
    Busy bee

    YES! I am doing tons of DIY things, and FH knows about it and gets excited too. Then sometimes I feel silly because there is no ring, so I am taking a break for a bit 🙂 But it’s so much fun!

    Post # 8
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    1568 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think that is perfectly acceptable. I am not engaged yet but we have a timeline to be married in and I am planning. I am making lists of the things that I want, looking into venues and seeing how much they are, I even started looking for a dress (I have a rediculously tight budget for my dress so I needed to get started asap), figuring out what DIY projects I am going to need to take on, and etc. Our wedding is going to be sometime in Late August or Mid September of next year but I want to make sure that when that ring goes on my finger all that planning pays off.

    Post # 9
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Wow! You are very organised! I have bookmarked a lot of wedding ideas. I also make an ideal wedding budget in my mind and then went out and researched prices of things. haha Other than that, I haven’t done any official planning, it’s all just fun ideas and stuff. I don’t want to be completely overwhelmed when we actually do become engaged – especially since we are having a short engagement! Therefore, I’m relieved that I have a lot more knowledge about wedding planning and have ideas about what I like. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I didn’t plan a THING until I got engaged! I think everyone’s different. I didn’t want to jinx myself or go crazy planning something that wasn’t concrete. I have to say– I had NO idea about colors, vendors, what type of dress, locations.,I mean NOTHING. I kiiiind of wish I started researching earlier, but then that also wouldn’t have been my personality!

    I think it’s great to be organized, but the only negative from what I’ve seen in my friend circle is when a friend of mine started planning before she was engaged, she got wrapped up in a make believe wedding and put way too much pressure on her boyfriend to make her pretend wedding real. As long as you and your SO are on the same timeline page, then I think you’re fine!! Hopefully you won’t be a waiting bee for too long!! 🙂

    Post # 11
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    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I was engaged for many months before I started planning. I actually wanted to elope in order to save myself from planning. I’ve actually began to enjoy it finally, & am glad that we opted for an actual wedding.

    But honestly, at least where I’m from, you really can’t plan a whole lot until about 6 months before your wedding. But then again, I’m not very detail oriented, and I omitted several details, so perhaps if I was in your position (wanting a ton of details & parties etc..) it would have been easier for me to plan ahead of time.

    ETA: I think what I mean when I say I’ve finally liked to start planning, I just mean I’ve finally started to like shopping 😛 still hate the actual planning (like making the wording for the ceremony. been avoiding that like the plague.)

    Post # 12
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    75 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m kind of dreading wedding planning…that said, I’ve done some preliminary research on venues and vendors just so I know where to start when we get engaged! I don’t want to be a huge stressball for our whole engagement!

    Post # 13
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    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’ve done some research, and he knows I have, just maybe not how much. He’s agreed to my colors and venue, and I have bought only one small, returnable item that isn’t very wedding specific 

    Post # 14
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    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @MrsTea:  same here, just some advanced research of places and ideas 🙂

    Post # 15
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    1164 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Oh, I’m in the same boat as you! We’ve looked at rings, we’re ordering soon, but it’s not on my finger yet. That’s not stopping me from trying to get as many details as possible decided! I’m not going to look at venues or try on dresses until afterwards because I feel those are a little different. But that doesn’t mean I can’t do some pinning on pinterest! 🙂 Oh, and I’m a fellow Alabama (soon-to-be) bride!

    Post # 16
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @Chelwilly:  yeah I agree that it could be bad if the FH ended up being pressured into giving their FW their dream wedding without any input of their own. My planning is more just research, and nothing that would to turn the wedding into MY wedding instead of OUR wedding, if ya get what I mean.

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