Post # 1
So, I have 9 months till the wedding, and although a lot of people plan theirs in 6 months or less, I wanted to get ahead and start planning 3 months ago. Well, I did. I started planning, searching vendors, yada yada, but it took just about 3 months to finalize where we were going to have the wedding, get our engagement pictures done, and get together all of our wedding party to talk and finalize with them. I would like to continue to move forward with the planning but have just felt myself at a dead end.
I got started on the men’s boutonneires and finished them since I was making them myself, and was on the search for my wedding gown, which I have purchased. Now, I am really just waiting to receive all of my family’s addresses so we can get save the date cards and send them out. So I guess my point to this post was to see if anyone else is where I am at, or has been where I am?
I know that I have all of these checklists to go over and everything, but with going to school and just trying to get the rest of my life together and settled, I’ve just been putting things off I guess, and since I haven’t looked at my checklists, I don’t really know what to do next. We have an appointment with a cake company at the beginning of April, and we are also meeting with a rental place to talk about table settings/centerpeices/and decorations. So we do have some events in the near future, but I am also waiting to hear back from some caterers that are slacking.
So, what is the best way to get motivated and get back on track with planning? I don’t want to put things off till the last minute, but it is also hard to do when I have no one else helping me with the process. Any advice bees?
Post # 3
I totally get what you’re saying…I hit a wall with all the checklists a few months ago.
I changed my approach and used the monthly calendar in the front part of my day planner as my ‘wedding countdown.’ Working backward from my date, I wrote in the checklist items on the Monday of the week a task needed to be accomplished. I underlined the header [invites, cake, dress, etc] and then wrote notes across the week as needed. It’s a great reference for me now because it’s tailored to my actual wedding timeline and it’s helped me feel more in control of the checklist process.
Post # 4
Sometimes you need to just take a week or so off of wedding planning to refresh yourself and get back into it. You have plenty of time. I planned everything about mine from start to finish (including STD’s) in just 6 months.
Other then that, sometimes it’s just a matter of picking something to finish and getting it done. Maybe start emailing people or calling them (or bugging your FI, FMIL, mom, etc) to get their addresses so you have them when the time comes to send out the STD’s.
Post # 5
@pink.sequins: I think I might try that, I know that if I just pick up my freaking planner and look at it I could get things accomplished, but I keep forgetting. I’m focused on getting homework done and what not that I forget that I need to put more effort into getting wedding planning accomplished. lol Thanks for the tips though! I’ll have to look into starting backwards and moving to the beginning of my planning book. 🙂
@dodgercpkl: I have been bugging my mom for addresses because she contacted my aunt to see if she could get my family’s addresses for me, so I’m waiting now, on my aunt to mail them to me, they should be here this week according to my mom. I have to talk with my FMIL as well, but I forgot to do so last weekend when I saw her, grrrr. But I think after we send out save the dates and everything, I might be more inclined to get started. I know that I have a few DIY things that I need to do, and I think I might get started on my BM bouquets tonight. 🙂 Thanks for the advice too!
Post # 6
I’ll be interested to know if it helps you. Honestly, the checklists overwhelmed me and I ended up confused and without focus. And my life (work, friends, FI) was suffering for it! After I broke it down month by month, I can see not everything needs to be done now now NOW. If I start to freak out or lose momentum, I know right where to look to get back on track 🙂