Post # 1
So bees I’m moving from my place in with a friend in a few weeks, because my current rent is astronomical and I really need to save money for our wedding. FI and I don’t live together because we along with our parents are strong believers of not living together before marriage. I can’t help feeling a little down though because I’m leaving my own place and sacrificing so that our day will be wonderful. My friend who I’m moving in with is a wonderful gal but I just can’t shake the little sadness that I have because I’ll be losing the sanity and peacefulness I’ve had living alone right now. This is the home I’ve built. *sigh*
What have any of you done “responsibly” for your wedding that made you feel a bit down in the dumps?
Post # 3
Are there not less expensive options for housing where you can live and still save money without having to give up your independance before the wedding?
Maybe just try to focus on the positive that eventually you’ll be building a new home and life with your man once your wedding is over and you sacrifices will be for the best in the end.
Post # 4
@mcnetn3: Well I’ve looked and looked for months trying to find cheaper places, but a lot of them are pretty rundown and not in great areas. The better areas are quite expensive and have the amenities I prefer and are close in proximity to my job. Maybe that’s just me being particular too. I’m working on looking toward my new future, though, as you said.
Post # 5
Think of it this way… you are about to start a great new life with your husband and have a family.. try not to be so sad.. your future seems pretty bright!
I had to give up shopping or eating out and weeknights and weekends doing DIY.. I was so tired of always having to save but sooo worth it
Post # 6
Wow! big sacrifice for you wedding! May I just bring up something though?
I hope you FI is also making some effort/sacrifices to make it happen… you’re sacrificing a lot for just one day; just remember that yes, it’s the most special day of your lives as a couple, but it only lasts one day, and what if it doesn’t meet your expectations? Many things don’t go as planned on the day of the wedding, and you’re putting so much into it, I hope you won’t be crushed if it doesn’t happen…
As for being responsible… now that you’ll be saving on rent, it would be responsible to set money aside for your life after the wedding…
Post # 7
@egb: Yes, FI is making a big sacrifice too – he’s actually moved back home with the parents! EEK! No, his family is awesome. My family is awesome too – but I know they’d wreck my brain trying to plan a wedding! I’d rather be living on my own.
The saving I’m doing is half for the wedding/half for our life afterward. I’ve got a savings plan worked out to go to our wedding savings and to my personal savings – so that we can eventually get a big enough down payment for a home (and not have to rent anymore! YAY!). With many prayers I hope that it will grow as I’ve envisioned it. Just sucks to sacrifice sometimes! I know it’ll be worth it though. 🙂
Post # 8
@IvyBride11: I know how you feel! My roommate and I got married 3 weeks apart from each other in September. Our lease was up in March, which I thought was perfect! We could sign a 6 month lease and it would lead us right to the weddings!
She didn’t feel the same way. She moved home to save more money for the wedding, and we felt the same as you about living together before marriage. So…I could’ve either doubled my rent, or move in with my brother and sister in law. Though I love both my brother and SIL, I did feel a little like the 3rd wheel, and that I was a bit of a burden. They never made me feel that way, but it stunk that I was relying on them to help save for the wedding. In the end, I’m so glad I did it. It was a sacrafice, but I saved so much that I had more money leftover after the wedding to put towards our new house that we now live in! So, ultimately, it was a really good move for me…it was logical and practical, and it really helped us in the long run.
Good luck! Keep telling yourself that it’s only temporary and the time will fly by!
Post # 9
Sacrifice is generally not fun (or I suppose it wouldn’t be a sacrifice – ha ha), but look at it this way … how much more special will it be when you and your new husband finally get your own place together? I think the time will fly and at the end of the day, you will be so glad you made this choice for your future!
Post # 10
@2PeasinaPod: OMG thanks so much for your story. That definitely makes me feel better. It’s like, sometimes you want to just throw caution to the wind and go for what makes you feel good – then here comes the little voice…..wasn’t it easy when all we had to worry about was Barbie dolls and Happy Meals?
Post # 11
@fontgoddess: You’re right. I’ll be happy when I get to see his smiling face more often. It is kind of hard not seeing him daily right now anyway, but that’s another post. 🙂