Post # 1
Have any of you noticed that at the start of your engagement you were all about the ‘let’s be reasonable, it’s just one day and it doesn’t have to be perfect’ whereas when it comes to the actual decision making time it’s so easy to say ‘yeah, but if we spend just a little bit extra we can get a bigger cake/a better band/more flowers/more diamonds in my wedding ring/….’ Do you find that your budget goes more and more out the window as you get into full bridal mode? I blame the wedding magazines…
Post # 3
This is so funny. Ive thought about that a couple times. It’s still too early for me to start the actual heavy planning, so i am unsure if i will be this way or not. I’m still in the “its silly to spend so much money” phase
Post # 4
Hahaha, wait til you get to the ‘WHAT DO YOU MEAN THE BAND IS TOO EXPENSIVE, DON’T YOU KNOW THEY WERE ON TELEVISION THE OTHER DAY??’ phase. It’s fine, just make sure you can laugh at yourself at all times. I certainly keep myself entertained at the moment
Post # 5
Went through that… came out the other side to a place where the whole wedding industrial complex leaves me feeling vaguely nauseous. If it’s supposed to be the most wonderful day of *my* life, how come everybody’s trying to tear a piece off it for themselves?
Post # 6
Yeah, if I have to hear ‘It’s Your Special Day! So you need to buy XYZ to make it perfect!’ one more time I will actually start hitting people (and I’m not a violent person). That, and being bombarded by weight loss adverts on facebook.
It’s so easy to get sucked in though, the phrase ‘you only do this once’ does get stuck in your head. And then suddenly everything does indeed need to be perfect!
Post # 7
A huge joke in my family is that I justified missing 2 days of class in college for the NCAA tourny to my parents by using the arguement that it was a “once in a ifetime experience” (and then proceeded to go every year of college….). So now every time i think i want something for the wedding I say that. At first it was a joke, now I feel like its my reasoning and why i seem to want EVERYTHING~!
Post # 8
Yes! Just last night, we had a video call with a photographer who is twice our original budget! We’re cutting out the flower centerpieces and going with lanterns to make up some of the difference, but it’s hilarious how quickly it happens! I did the same thing with my dress. I teeter between “keep it simple and affordable, it’s just a day and everyone will have fun no matter what” and “well I don’t want to spend THAT much for a mediocre photographer when I can spend xxx more for this amazing one! And I don’t want to wear a cheap-feeling dress on the day I will have more pictures than moses taken of me!”
I agree that being able to laugh at the crazy parts will keep you sane.
Post # 9
I think I went thru that at the start. I had that fairytale wedding with every single person i’ve known since birth would be there, with an open bar, a live band, a huge dress, and a plated sit down dinner with crabs and steak.
Then after looking at a few venues and realized that I was the one writing the checks, out of the accounts that I had saved money in, so reality smashed those fairytale wedding ideas.
Post # 10
I haven’t yet jumped on that bandwagon. Not that it isn’t tempting, we are just trying to stay super careful with our money!
Post # 11
Lol yep, things snowball pretty easily. Although now that I’m towards the end I’m too tired to care about perfection.
Post # 12
Hahahahaha are you stalking me? Yah I definitely have gone down that path. I’m still pretty reasonable and frugal though, but there have definitely been upgrades.
Post # 13
I totally got carried away in the beginning. One night I found myself crying because we would have to have a 7 piece Band as opposed to a 10 piece. The next morning I woke up wondering who the f*** I thought I was because my behavior was so ridiculous. It’s so easy to get carried away and I am a vendor’s dream.
At the end of the day, the band came down in price and I was able to book the 10 piece.