- 7 years ago
ugh- so I am so angry and upset right now, I don’t know where to start. So I posted a few days ago about what to do about SIL bday and giving her a card, my husband I agreed no card because we have cut her and his mother out of our life for so many reasons that most of you know. Well tonight on our way home, he brings it up, and it would be fine but he does it in a way that he is like I think I should send her a card, I didn’t get mad yet, but I explained how I felt about it, which he agreed, but then it turned into an heated discussion about what they have done and what they did at the wedding and I said to him I just don’t understand how your not so mad that you would even think about even sending her anything, he didn’t say anything, I of course then told him I felt that if it wasn’t for me and me being firm that I did not accept them in my life that he would, he denied it but he told me that I just don’t understand and this is so hard on him, which leads me to me being so friggin mad.
Now, I have been 100% supportive of him, my family has been amazing through the entire time of our engagement and helping him cope, we all put our life on hold for him to help him through this tough time even though I was the one getting the brunt of the nastiness from his family and literally having my engagement and wedding almos ruined by these people, but I made it about him and so did my family and friends.
NOW—throughout our engagement my parents have been our rock, their focus was helping me and him through the time with his family…all the while my mom and dad and MY family were going through a hell of a time. My Aunt who is my moms best friend and who I am super close with was diagnose with lung cancer and unable to attend the wedding, my moms mother who also now lives with my mom and dad has lung cancer and my parents are the provider for her, my grandfather who is my moms father passed away 7 months ago, all the while my sister keeps having miscarriages…this is all durning our engagement on top of my husbands mom and sister being a-holes but you never would know all this was going on with my family as everything was about getting my husband through this with his family.
While we are on our honeymoon and still getting NASTY emails from husbands mom, my grandfather ( dads dad) starts emailing me all this weird stuff. I am super close with him, he is like my second dad, so I know something is up. I call home from Greece and after lots of begging of my parents find out that my grandfather has gone crazy…no one knows what is wrong with him but he goes through this crazy fits and just goes missing or flips out ( telling my dad he is going to kill him, have him arrested) we cant get him to go to the Dr or anything. Well 2 weeks ago he went missing, we have no idea where he is, my grandmother is a wreck, my famil is, its just a horrible time for my family. So now on top of my other grandmother living with my parents, my dads mom moved in as well. Major stress. So this leads me to why I am so mad, my family has so much shit going on, we have all been there for my husband and I just feel like he is being so selfish right now, he actually said that if he doesn’t send a card to his sister his father will disown us and stop talking to us. Are you kidding me, his sister didnt even give us a wedding card and his father whom was the only person that was amazing throughout it all is now going to be like that. I’ve seriously F ing had it with his family with this BS that isn’t even important BS, my family who has been way more like a family to both of us deserve more of our time and attention then him freeling sorry for himself and still feeling like he wants to havce a part of that craziness of his family.
Im sorry this is so long, Im just so annoyed, I just want to scream at him to get over it and start focusing on the real things and people that matter in his life and that have done so much and continue to do so much for him instead of people like that! AH