(Closed) I'm so annoyed with the "when is the baby coming" comments

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@sweetchiquita12:  OMG, me too! I can’t stand it. We had people talking about it AT OUR RECEPTION. Like, seriously? One step at a time, people. I’ve just started smiling and making a vague comment like “We’ll see, we want to enjoy each other and our marriage first.” I mean I know my family and my IL’s are anxious for GK’s, but it’s still pretty rude. We’re planning on TTC within the next year, but even then, it’s no one’s business.

Post # 4
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think the older you get, the more anxious people get for you to have kids. Right now, my husband and I are 23, we’ve been wed for 6 months. No one is really concerned about us having kids right now; in fact everyone but my FIL says that they’re too young to be grandparents! (FIL wanted nietos yesterday hahaha). On the flipside, my cousin who just married in April, is 30, and his wife is 29. They’re being constantly asked about when are they going to conceive.

Post # 5
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33 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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Post # 6
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8044 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@sweetchiquita12:  Yeah it annoys me too. I’m glad my mom isn’t like this. SO’s mom asked a couple Qs but didn’t pressure much last time we were visiting (they live in England). We’re not even married yet! It could be a lot worse, but yeah, I am totally taken offguard when people ask. It’s not my life dream to be a mother, you know? I want it as part of my life… when the time is right… which is not now! Lol.

 

Post # 7
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We handed out fun guest book pages for people to fill out at our wedding a month ago and one of the questions was “Predict the name/date of first baby”. A TON of people said 9 months from the wedding day. And I’ve had a few friends ask/demand that we have a baby soon so they can babysit. We’re pretty young and I’m just starting grad school in the Fall, so it kind of irritated me, even though we both want children. Give us some time! 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@MagPie0829:  I love those snarky comments!

 

Thankfully I don’t have this problem.  It’s the opposite- you don’t need kids, you’re still young!  Which I agree with, so I’m cool with it, ha.

One bride I know though… Ugh.  I seriously want to punch some people.  Her younger sister is pregnant, and all anyone ever seems to talk about it how the bride will want to have kids right away.  The younger sister is probably the worst offender about it too.  But what does the bride want?  To wait a few years, so she and her husband can settle down and start careers.  And everytime someone suggests that she should try to get pregnant ASAP, I can see that she dies a little inside, like they’re invalidating their choice.  If someone says that to her at the wedding, I don’t care who it is or how much I’ll rip my dress- that &*^@! is going down!

Not really, I’m a lover, not a fighter.  But I would probably “trip” and spill punch on them.

Post # 12
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2461 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@bboot:  To be fair, some of them may have put 9 months to be funny.  More than 9 months would be a serious, forgettable guess.  Less than 9 months is borderline rude.  9 months?  I’d just laugh it off.

 

Post # 13
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8976 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My mother wants nothing more than a grandchild. She bothers me about it every single day.

I told her that if she asked me one more time I was digging out my uterus with a box cutter.

Post # 14
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1967 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That sounds super annoying. But if I was 31 my whole family would be asking when we’re having babies too. I’d get the “you’re not getting any younger talk” from all of the older tactless people. I would just ignore it. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Hyperventilate:  LMAO!

 

@sweetchiquita12: Try telling them you aren’t having a baby – EVER! That’ll shut them up. For me it’s true but seriously, word will spread that *GASP* you aren’t having kids and then only the nosiest will prod. Everyone else will just talk behind your back. 🙂 

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