Post # 1
I feel really awful saying this. My man is amazing and I wouldn’t trade him for anything in the whole world. He is pretty adorable but throughout the two years that I’ve known him he’s been pretty chubby. At first he worked really hard at what he ate and stopped eating when he felt full. It really helped him lose a lot of weight.
Now, with everything going on, he’s deffinately put that weight on again ( and maybe more). I’m not really sure if I should bring it up to him. I try to not notice it because after all it’s silly of me and pretty shallow, but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I’ve gained some weight too. So how do I motivate him?
Post # 3
Set the example. If you do the cooking in the house, only cook healthy meals. When you grocery shop only buy healthy foods to put in the house. Don’t sit in front of the TV/computer after dinner, go for a walk or even a run! Be the healthy one in the house and hopefully he will follow suit.
When I started dating my BF he was at his heaviest, at 6’4 he weighed 250 pounds. 2 years later he is down to 180. I never talked about his weight or my want for him to lose any, I just led by example. I don’t eat fast food, therefore we would not go out for fast food together. We signed up for a half marathon and began training together. We also have Disneyland passes which help get us out of the house (we pack healthy snacks to avoid temptation, haha).
I honestly wouldn’t mention to him that you want him to lose weight, unless you frame it as wanting him to be healthy. Most people know they are heavier than they should be and many will backlash if told by someone they should lose weight.
Post # 4
Do you want to lose what you’ve gained? Maybe you guys can start a coupld new activities that would help you lose weight. Pick up biking or roller blading? Take a walk after dinner every night. My bf and I did a “biggest loser” challenge, we did a weekly weigh-in to see who would lose the weight first.
Post # 5
I don’t know that guys are good with subtle hints. If you are the one who cooks and serves him meals, then add a lot more veggies and salads to his meals. I know I told my guy straight up, he started going to the gym pretty often after that. I was gentle but UNSUBTLE because subtle didn’t get me anywhere for months.
Post # 6
Tell him that you’ve been feeling a little down about your weight and that you really want to start eating right and walking after dinner or going to the gym, but that you don’t want to do it alone so you really want him to help you out. I think if you pose it as this is about you and that he will be the one helping you then he wont know that you are really doing this for him. I wouldn’t tell him that you think he needs to lose some weight, I mean what would be your reaction if he came up to you one day and told you that? Just play it out like he would be doing you a favor:)
Post # 7
Yeah I never would go up to him and say that, it would deffinatetly hurt his feelings because he his an amazing man. I do plan on losing the weight I gained and I think that once he quits school he said he plans on walking some more so hopefully that will help both of us out.