Post # 1
I’m so lost and Lonely since I have split up with my boyfriend,
I I don’t know what to do with out him. I keep thinking of him and everything we used to do together weather it watching TV or going for a walk, he’s just on my mind. When we broke he said he was going to purpose to me next year n he was the only one I have ever wanted to marry. I feel so lost with out him, I have no friends to turn to because they have all turned there back on me and as one girl rules the town then they have all followed her and what she says about people must always be true. I keep myself locked in most days an don’t go out anymore. I tried to end my life thinking it would be better for me. But I just need to talk to someone and hopefully get some advise so anyone out there please feel free to commet. Thanks for read xx
Post # 3
@goblinette: Im not good at this kinda thing, Im more of a hug me/hug them kinda person, so just try and image this random stranger from across the world cares about you and if it were possible I would reach my arms through this silly screen and hug you (>’.’)>
I can’t say anything everyone else wouldn’t tell you, but it really will get so much easier, and I bet one day this will lead you to someone even better..
And girls like that? You don’t want them in your life, but you know the best way to show them? Get out there, try to be as happy and positive as possible and show them you are stronger than they think! You’ll find it really starts rubbing off on you and you’ll find yourself feeling much better because of your awesomeness and positive attitude.
Theres at least one person on this planet who is so incredibly glad you didn’t end your life.
x Your dear internet stranger friend.
Post # 4
@goblinette: Why did you break up?
Also, men lie all the TIME. So I wouldn’t take his “plans on proposing” too seriously.
Post # 5
@goblinette: You need to reconnect with your loved ones.
From what you’ve mentioned, it sounds like you lost yourself in the relationship. You need to start rekindling your other relationships. Then you need to start taking better care of yourself.
Do things you love and enjoy, even if that means you have to do it alone at first. Get more involved in your community, take local gym classes or joing a book club. Whatever you enjoy doing with your free time.
I feel like once you start centering your focus on yourself, you’ll find likeminded people that you can bond with.
Best wishes and take your time healing, theres no rush. You’ll feel and see the difference once you take the steps 🙂
Post # 6
@goblinette: I’m sorry you are feeling low. I’m a firm believer that things happen for a reason. pick yourself up and stay strong. No one Is worth ending your life over! Life has it’s ups and downs. This breakup is a small bump in the road for you.
Post # 7
@goblinette: I am sooo sorry you are going through this. DO NOT END YOUR LIFE!! It gets better!!!!!!!!
I know it’s crazy…..but boards like this do help. We are here for you and can be your friends in the interm. Something else that helps me with anxiety–try to play games online. Something like spades/hearts where your score is tracked and set a goal for yourself and focus on that for a while.
Try to be open, I agree with @Nika2013: reconnect with family.
Be open to invites and start saying yes to everything!!!!
Have you thought about an online dating site?!? It’ll help you meet up with people, meet new people, and move on. You could also try to join a support group–You are not alone in feeling like you are, it does get better…and maybe it will help you to make NEW friends at a support group that are more wonderful than whatever girl runs the town. There’s sooooo much more to life than being a socialite, trust me!!
Good Luck. I’m here for you, we are all here for you!!
Post # 8
Thank you all for your comments I will try my hardest to get back out there, just very nervous bout being outside at the moment, I know all these things I will get over and it will just take timejust baby steps. But I will take all your ideas on board an see what I can do. Hard when you feel like you don’t have anyone to turn to. I don’t talk to half my family only have my mum, a lot of family issues, really not an easy life I have lol. Think iv only just realised.
But I just gutted that things ended an feel lost it hurts everyday n I cry most days just trying to get oover him hate the feel in.
I did try online dating and have been talking to someone from there but hard to ever see meet them.
Music does help me through my day as I love listening to it n dancing,
Thank u everyone xxxxx
Post # 9
I’m sorry that you feel so lost an alone– that is a truly awful feeling, that many of us (me included) have gone through at some point.
I’m wondering if you have a job or school to go to? Would it be possible for you to find a therapist to help you work through getting over the relationship, and some of your family issues? I think that might really help. Also, please don’t harm yourself!!!! If you ever feel that urge again, know that there are lots of people out there who want to see you be happy and feel better. Call 911 (or, I’m guessing you’re in the UK since your location says Cornwall, the UK equivalent) if you ever feel you might harm yourself again!
Why does the thought of going outside frighten you so? I can only imagine that it was something awful that happened to you. For this, too, I think therapy would help you so much. I hope you can look into that!
Anyway, the Bee is always here if you are feeling lonely. There are people on here from all over the world, so there is almost always someone up and posting!