- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
To the point where I almost want to tell him to not bother coming to the wedding. Almost. I wont, cause that would just be bitchy of me.
But UGH, I just want to scream!
He’s never been the best dad. He was constantly screaming when I was a kid, and beating up on my brother (who has aspbergers) and I was absolutely terrified of him.
He’s gotten much calmer in the last 10ish years, but turned to retail therapy. He always had to have the latest thing, even if he didnt need or use it. Because he buys himself everything he wants all year, when it comes to birthdays and Christmas he always says he doesnt have any money to buy people things. Literally, “oh honey I’m sorry I didnt have money to get you anything, but let me tell you about my brand new large screen TV! And did I mention that I just got a new phone 4 months ago, but I just bought an even newer and more expensive one?”
I havent received so much as a card from him for the last probably 3 years. Last year for my birthday he felt guilty, so he sent me a check for $300. He told me not to get it cashed until a certain day, or it would bounce. So I waited, and then got it cashed into my bank account, but then had to spend it for a vet bill. The next morning I woke up to a text from my bank saying that I only had 23 cents in my bank account. Apparently the check had bounced, so the money was taken out of my bank account. I told him about it, and didnt get an I’m sorry or nothing. Just an “Oh, oops.” Thats the last “gift” I’ve gotten from him.
So when he told me that he was going to save up money and help with the wedding, I didnt take him seriously. I went along with it, but kept it in the back of my head that I would probably never see that money. So I was SHOCKED when he told me that he had over $1000 send to me. Absolutely flabbergasted (I’ve never used that word and just wanted to use it.) But a couple of months went by and I didnt hear anything from him about him sending me the check. So finally I called him because we need to start making the final payments for everything and could use some extra cash.
He “accidentally” spent it. All of it.
Now, its not like my dad is sore for cash. He makes $20 an hour and his wife makes $30 an hour. And they live in a small 2 bedroom house. He says the payment for it is only like $900 a month.
Now I know I probably sound like a spoiled brat, demanding money. But I cant help it! I’m absolutely fuming!