Post # 1
Bees, I’m feeling really sad that I’ll never be able to have these beautiful designer dresses that every bride on this site seems to have.
I’ve fallen in love with so many Maggie dresses. But we would never, ever, ever be able to afford spending that much money on something I’ll only wear once, and besides, my church has modesty standards that make most wedding dresses impossible. But then I saw a Muslim bride on the Maggie site that had the dress altered for her religion’s standards and it took my breath away… and my contentment. :/
I see girls on this site talking about how they love their dress except for this seam or this beading or comparing the most minute details of the silhouette, and now I’m looking at my dress, noticing the obvious bust seams (maybe just because it hasn’t been altered and it’s too tight there?), the so-not-intricate beading, the plain Jane silhouette, and I just feel… so… sad.
I mean, the only reason I was able to afford my dress is because it was on major sale. I was basically settled on a cheaper fabric, setting aside my dreams of lace and beading, until I found this dress. It was a miracle, but I still wish I could have something as beautiful as all of your dresses. Mine’s just made by a little Chinese family-owned business in my small town… so stupid and plain. :/
I’m too embarassed to even upload a picture of my dress now, I feel so incompetent. But if anyone has any inspiring words, I could sure use them. 🙁 🙁 🙁
Post # 3
I’m sure you look stunning in your dress, and you’ll make a gorgeous bride on your big day =)
A simple dress just means you’ll wear the dress, your dress wont wear you!
Post a picture of you in your dress, and let us let you how gorgeous you really look.
Above is a link to a thread of ladies is gorgeous simple dresses to prove you don’t need extravangence to be stunning!
Post # 4
I would love to see a photo of your dress!!
Post # 5
I dunno, guys. The level of modesty in it is pretty embarrassing to share around here too :/ I just feel really scared to share it.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. Although there certainly are bees who have incredibly amazing-looking and very expensive gowns, there are many others who do not.
So many bees, including me, have struggled with dress regret and have wished that we could have had a different, more expensive, etc. dress, and, yet, every bride really does look beautiful on her wedding day, even if she isn’t wearing a dress that has been on the cover of a magazine or featured on a wedding show.
ETA: I just saw your update. There is nothing to be embarrassed about regarding your dress having modesty. There have been bees whose dresses have had long sleeves and high necklines due to the requirements of their faith, and they have still looked very beautiful.
I also would love to see a pic of your gown.
Post # 7
I’ll bet your dress is stunning! Congrats on getting it on sale too.
Post # 8
I’ve found this place really supportive with dress selections. Even if people don’t like it they will more than likely come up with ideas to help improve it.
If it makes you feel any better I bought my dress for under $200 online. It’s not a designer one but budget wouldn’t allow that.
So be proud and lets see. I bet it’s lovely!
Post # 9
Like most things in life, when you start comparing yourself to everyone else, it can really get you down. I’m really sorry you feel sad about your dress, but I guarantee it’s not as bad as you think, regardless of the quality of the fabric, the intricacy of the beading, or if it’s got a less dramatic silhouette than some of the other dresses out there.
There’s plenty of us, here and all over, who don’t have designer dresses for all kinds of reasons. For what it’s worth, my dress is a) not a designer dress, b) not a bridal gown at all, c) not white, d) no beading/lace/anything fancy, and e) cost me $150 (and I’m going to wear that thing again as much as I can get away with). It’s a plain, gray, nice but not top quality dress. I know it’s very, very hard to step back sometimes when it comes to wedding things that matter to you, but in the end, it’s a dress – it doesn’t define anything about you.
Post # 10
Awww sweetie everything will be just fine. Everyone here has something they are self conscious about, trust me. If you feel like the dress is so plain maybe you could add some sparkle to it with a sash, earrings, necklace, or hair piece. Most of the time we are overly critical of ourselves.
If you feel comfortable you should post a pic so we can give you opinions and advice if needed. If not no worries, you will be a beautiful bride because you are getting married to a man you love and your smile will be beaming on your wedding day!
Post # 11
I spend $95 on my dress from JC Penney online. It’s not even a true wedding dress. I know I am on the boards where dresses are one of the biggest topics. Personally, I think they are pretty but I would not spend thousands of dollars on a dress. Beauty comes from within and the joy and radiance would show through if you were wearing a burlap sack.
I know I may be in the minority here but I’m not posting pictures and participating in the how big is your ring, how much did you spend, etc threads. A wedding is not about the money. Its about marrying the man you love. The wedding business has gotten insane in my opinion. I saw a show where a bride had diamond false eyelashes. Are you kidding?
I truly hope you can see past all of this and be who you are, beautiful.
Post # 12
@Pamelor55: Couldn’t agree with you more !
Post # 13
i bet you look amazing in your dress, and i would love to see a picture! It dosent matter how much you spend on a dress or where you got it. Its how you feel in it, you obviously liked your dress before just a little at the least. Right! Dont worry about itlike i said before i bet you look amazing:)
Post # 14
Wow. Thank you so much everyone for your encouragement. I feel quite a bit better already! 🙂 I don’t think I need to now, but I would really like to hear positive feedback on my dress though so I’m going to overcome my embarrassment and post some pictures…
Keep in mind that I’ve lost 10 pounds since these pictures were taken, mostly around my waist and hips, and the dress hasn’t been altered yet – the bust is too tight and will be let out, and the skirt will have more lace sewn around it to reach the floor. I’m also considering turning it into a lace-up, but unsure whether we can afford that unnecessary expense.
Post # 15
I LOVE the cap sleeves on that dress, I think they are really pretty and I think the dress has a gorgeous shape. I think the way you have your hair up in the second photo with the pretty band really suits the dress style too. I know that I doubted my dress would have any wow-factor on the day, but it’s hard to gauge when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror with minimal make-up/wrong underwear/socks still on (or maybe it was just me who always went to dress fitting looking a state??) but don’t forget too that by the time you have your bridal make-up, your shoes, and your bouquet, they all work together with the dress to give an overall wow. Have you considered a sash or sparkly belt if you feel the dress is missing something? I think it’s gorgeous and you will be a stunner on the day 🙂
Post # 16
@Irish_in_Oxford: We did consider a belt but I ended up preferring it without. I just generally prefer no belts on wedding dresses. 🙂
Thank you for your kindness. <3