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Well Bees, this is my first vent. Yesterday I was shopping with my mom for an interview suit to wear on job interviews. I am graduating from College in December and I needed a suit to wear for a job fair. So, me and my mom are checking out at the store, buying my suit, and the sales lady casually asks what I needed a suit for. I told her for an interview. She said, "oh, for a pageant?", I said no, a job. Then she asked me how old I was, I said 22 and she responded with "no you are not!". I mean really!? I am SO sick and tired of hearing I look like I'm 16! I have also been asked if I needed a kids menu at a resturant, (I mean I know I don't look 22, but I'm pretty sure I look older than 12!!!) and every time I tell someone I'm a senior and about to graduate, they always ask me what High school I go to! It is just really frustrating for me. My mom keeps telling me that I will be thankful for this one day, which is true, it just sucks really bad right now! I feel like I don't get respect or get taken seriously because of how young I look. I'm also nervous about this hindering me being able to get a job in the near future. Have any of y'all had similar experiences? Thanks for letting me vent!!!
I definitely had that problem when up til I turned 22/23 (I'm 23 now). I used to go to the movies with my friend and the two of us would be carded every single time for R-Rated movies. Granted maybe I didn't look 20/21, but I know I sure as hell looked older than 16. I guess in a way it's a compliment, but it does get old after awhile. No doubt.
Ahh thats crazy! I've always had the opposite problem, in high school people thought I was in college. I don't think that your age will affect your ability to get a job. I know it sucks, but people like young looking people.
Yep! I'm 23 and Ill have people grab my left hand and say "Omg! You aren't engaged are you?!" and when I say of course I am they say "But you're only in high school!" No. I'm not. Honeslty, I don't think I look like I'm 17. Maybe 20, but still it's none of their buisiness anyways.
I get that I look 21 or 22 and I am 27. I guess it's better looking then looking a lot older lol? If you show future employers your resume with credentials or degrees they will likely realize how old you are :)
I feel your pain, but I guess the best thing we can do is just enjoy it while we can. I'm a high school teacher and at 23, people always make comments like "I thought you were a student!" or "Can I see your hall pass, missy?" It got on my nerves for a long time, but as long as they don't doubt my work or potential, I'm okay with it now. Trust me, I've been out of school for two years and it does not affect your potential to get a job as long as you carry yourself as though you are mature enough to hold down the position. I tend to wear really conservative clothes and makeup at work to downplay how young I am; it's all you can do.
Hi! I know how you feel, its annoying, but just hang in there. When I was in my twenties, people always assumed I was at least 5 ys younger then I was. It was a curse but also can be blessing. As for the interviews/job prospects, looking "young" was never a problem for me. I had an awesome resume to give a recruiter the first great impression about my background and skills. And during the face to face interview, go in with the kill and impress them with your poise, maturity (after all, you are a grown woman!), finesse and confidence to pull off the interview. They'll see your resume and when you graduated school, so that should speak for itself. And i agree with your mom, once you are older, you definitely will appreciate your youthful appearance. I am in my mid-thirties now and still giggle to myself whenever I do get carded when going clubbing or buying alcohol. :) You'll learn to appreciate it more as you get older. Good luck with the job hunt!
It is annoying, but if it is something that happens often you should probably just get use to it. I am a nurse and still have patients ask me if I'm in high school or if I've made it out of middle school. I usually just make some witty remark. I mean you can either just live with it or let it stress you out, which isn't going to change the fact that you look young.
When I went to look at the venue with my mom the lady kept talking to my mom so my mom finally just said she had to go to the bathroom and then the lady finally started talking to me. I usually just laugh it off.
I'm 26 and I still get it all the time - I am constantly asked where I will be starting college...I mostly just ignore it now, and really, why should they comment? I think if you act a certain way, people will treat you that way, regardless of how you look.
I'm 29 btw..
Just last week someone thought I was like 13. Awesome!! haha. It's usually just a conversation starter. Just show them that you are your age. Usually when people talk to me they quickly learn that I'm not some teeny-bopper!
When I was 23 (and married, btw) some guy to came to our door and asked if my mom was home. lol
I feel your pain. I bought a scratch-off lottery ticket once and got carded. I was 22. And the woman like actually inspected my card... I was like, are you for real??! If I went through all the trouble to get a fake ID, would I really use it to buy a scratch-off lottery ticket?? I also get carded going into rated R movies on a regular basis. It's pretty ridiculous.
I haven't had that problem in a long time but people use to think my little sister was my older sister. And my little sister was 8 years younger then me. I still have the age problem ever so often because most people won't believe me when I say I am 27, most still think I am only like 21 or 22.
I get it a lot, too (24 and married, here). Up until recently, I have always been carded, and I've often had sales clerks and such make comments when I go to buy stuff for specific occasions (Like when I bought a prom dress in HS and the lady said I didn't look only enough to go to prom... clearly, I've always had this issue)
Recently it's gotten a little bit better, but not by much.
A few weeks ago I had a couple college girls come to our apartment selling magazines for something, and they asked to speak to the lady of the house. When I told them that I was the lady of the house, they told me I looked like I was 17. Then when I told them that I wouldn't be able to buy anything without asking my husband first, they said "Well, what about calling dad?" SERIOUSLY? My dad hasn't paid for anything for me in like 4 years! It was really off-putting.
I have this problem all the time! Just last night I was trying to get into a pub in London and the bouncer wouldn't let me in because he thought my Texas Drivers License had to be fake since it said I was 23. And I've gotten the "wait you are getting married? You can't be older than 16" at least 5 times.
That used to happen to me, too. Sometimes people still think i look much younger than I am, which i LOVE now bc I'm almost 29!!! People probably tell u this all the time, but you will love it someday!
I'm 27 and just graduated from pharmacy school. People still think I mean high school when I say I just graduated. A nurse the other day at the hospital I work at thought I was a job shadow person. My husband who is younger than me (by 6 months) never gets carded. I have never not gotten carded! And they tried to wrist band me at a concert I went to with my mother last week because they didn't believe I was over 21. I used to be very annoyed by this, but as I approach 30, I am starting to not mind it so much. I still don't like it, but I am starting to understand the benefits it may hold in the future!
Hello!
I definitely have the same problem. People say it's such a great thing because I will always look younger than my age (my parents look pretty awesome at their age, so I am grateful), but it is kind of frustrating when people automatically put me down because they assume I'm in high school. I went shopping with my future SIL and they asked me if I was getting a dress for homecoming or prom. I've been told I looked 15 before and had to show ID to prove that I was old and capable to (A) sit on the exit row seating and (B) drink alcohol (same occasion, free spirits on an overseas plane ride? I would like a just a small shot of vodka to fall asleep, please!)
But anyways, I feel you, girl. What can we do? I am kind of bummed I'll be looking "so young" and not very "mature" looking on my wedding day.. but what can you do? I'd rather get annoyed now than look ages older when I am in my 50s and 60s.
Love~
I'm 24 and this happened to me just the other day. I went to benihanas with my fmil. We were sitting with another group who were in their mid twenties. One guy said something to me ending with "when you are my age" my fmil asks him how old he thinks I am and he says 17. Then one of the other ladies in his group chimes in to say "no way, maybe 15". My fmil laughed and showed them my ring. When she told them I was almost 25 they asked if she was kidding.
It gets so frustrating. Especially because I feel like everyone who doesn't know me talks to me like I am a child.
Yeah, I am 25 and when I was shopping for wedding stuff people kept trying to talk me out of marrying so young and waiting till I grew up, they couldnt believe it when I told them how old I was. Now when people notice my rings they say "Why did you get married so young? You're way too young you should have waited a few years!" (I actually just got this last night at a club) then I have to tell them I am 25 and have been with my husband for more than 5 years and they just look flabergasted. I also get people coming to my house trying to sell things and asking to speak to my parents. I usually get that I look about 17. I understand that when Im older I will be grateful, but when you are a full grown woman but you get treated like a child and dont get the respect that an adult should get its very very frustrating.
people accused my DH of robbing the cradle when we met because he had gray hair at 24 LOL I am well into my 30's now and I *just* stopped getting carded for wine. I have an 18 y/o son and he says his friends are always saying "that's not your mom! gotta be your sister!"
I don't hate it though. I will ADORE it when I am 50 :)
I sympathize. My own aunts thought my mom was crazy to let me date . . .at sixteen, because maybe I looked 12. People thought I was babysitting when I took my kids out in public. . .but now I am much happier about looking younger than my age. Cause I don't look near 50 . . . or 51. lol. 
i got carded for a R-rated movie recently. FI had to run to the car to get my ID! very annoying.
It is annoying, and hearing that I'm lucky to look so young and I'll like it someday gets old too. When we went to choose FI's tux the guy asked what color my prom dress was so he could get the tux and tie to match. At least he had the decency to look mildly embarassed and apologize when I said we're older than we look and it's for our wedding!
I get the same thing. My sister is two years younger than me and people always act surprised when they hear I'm the oldest. Annoying. When they see me with my fiancee...I get dirty looks. lol. I'm not 12, I swear!
I am 40 and got carded for a movie last year, in their defense, I had just died my hair, had sun glasses on, and was with with my 18 year old son with me with some of his friends. I did the happy dance 
My FI and I went shopping for suits this past winter in preparation for him graduating law school. I was calling him "Babe" so it was obvious our relationship was a couple and not like brother/older sister or anything like that.
The salesman asked him what the suit was for and FI replied, "Job interviews because I'm about to graduate."
"Oh, then this suit is a great investment because you can wear it again to events like prom."
FI was 26 at the time and I was 30. So he either thought we were both in high school or that I was a perv. Great. =/
I know how you feel! It used to bother me so much before, but now that I'm 28 I love it. :)
I do the happy dance every time someone asks for my I.D. or says I look younger than 28.
I totally understand! I'm 25 and I think I've just now made it to high school status. When I was 22, I started teaching at a school mid-year. On my first day I just observed the classes that I would be taking over. Apparently everyone thought I was a new student. In middle school!! I hate it too! You aren't alone! Everyone says it will be great later, but that doesn't make me feel much better.
I think part of the problem with people thinking you (in general) look young might be a few things. Maybe the length/style of your hair? The way you dress? How you speak? Sometimes I even think it 's a person's height! I've been 5'8 since I was 13, and was always told I looked older. The guesses about being younger never started til I was in my 30's.
I always wore my hair long and straight, and when I was 24, I finally got it cut to shoulder length. I couldn't believe how many people told me how they finally noticed ME and not my hair and how much more sophisticated I looked.
That could totally have something to do with it... my hair is also very long and straight, but I don't want to cut it until after my wedding becuase I want to have long, wavy curls! Maybe after I'm married and chop my hair off I will at least maybe look like a college student lol.I don't think it's the clothes I wear though, I'm a student intern so I dress professionally most of the time!
Thanks for all of the input, ladies! I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one with this problem, but it still sucks for now!
I get it all the time... I'm 22 and can easily pass for 14-15 (if I pull my hair back, lol).
But I've been growing my hair out long... IMO, it makes me look a bit more mature, since my hair is very wild and curly but when it's long it sort of relaxes into nice waves. :)
I know exactly how you feel! And it doesn't help that I am super petite too, so I always get the high school comments. I just turned 23 and I graduated college last year and I still get the comments! I guess it's cool though because when we're 50, we'll probably look 30 lol. I found that experimenting with a little bit of make-up, walking a little taller, and wearing more "grown-up" looking outfits has helped a lot. To top it off, I don't know half of the new high school slang or new dance obsessions anyway, so I guess I'm out of the loop!
I know how you feel I am 27 and when I went to a few stores with my best friend looking for wedding dresses, we kept getting asked if we were shopping for prom dresses
This happens to me all the time. Whenever I go to a new doctor's office they ask me if my mom is around to sign my forms. It's so annoying. I'm 21. I'm tired of hearing I look like I'm 16. My mom always tells me I'll appreciate it later but still. I sure don't appreciate it now!
I used to get told that too. Now at 28, I get excited when I get carded :-)
I know how you feel! Last spring I went to a museum with my parents and DH, and when we paid for admission, the person behind the desk said, "That's three adults and...you're under 17, right?" Um, NO. I was 23 at the time.
I'm 25 now and don't find myself getting carded for things as often as I used to, but it does still happen sometimes.
Sometimes I wonder if people are just clueless about age, or if they are trying to flatter you and failing miserably...
Ughhhhh I know the feeling! I turn 27 next month and I am a teacher! When parents first meet me they say "ohh but you like you're 15!" I HATE IT! I feel like I have to tell them my real age for them to feel more comfortable.
I've just accepted the fact that I look young!
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