Post # 1
Feel free to ignore. I just have to get this out there somewhere before I explode and go off on one of my ‘loving’ family members/friends.
I’m so tired of people criticising EVERY LITTLE DETAIL about my wedding! If you can’t be happy for me and my FI getting married and starting a life together and you’re more concerned about the reception, then DON’T EFFING COME! I don’t want you anyways if you’re going to pout until you get your way!
I’m tired of people complaining about the location. Boo hoo it’s not in your home state, well I’m sorry I want to get married in my hometown and I want to get married in the church I grew up in! Send your “I’m sorry I can’t come because it’s too far away” regrets. DON’T insit that I move the wedding so that you can come and say it’s selfish to not do so! I can’t do that for everyone (when my family is skattered across the whole US) what makes you the exception.
I’m tired of people complaining about the fact that we’re having a Catholic wedding. Um last time I checked, I’m pretty damn open about the fact that I’m Catholic, why is this a surprise??? I’m sorry you feel like you’re going to be bored out of your mind. But I promise you, we’re not doing it to bore you. We’re doing it because it is a really important part of our lives. Don’t worry you’ll have a little booklet to read along to, some good music, and really good food waiting for you after the ceremony.
I’m tired of people inviting themselves. What part of “We’re having a small wedding” do people not understand! I’m tired of people complaining that they can’t bring their child that won’t understand what is going on and will probably be bored out of their mind. I would love to invite everyone under the moon, but when you have a huge family like mine that has 40 cousins on JUST MY SIDE alone, you have to draw the line somewhere. We can’t make exceptions, because that’ll piss people off! We make an exception for one toddler, then we have to invite them all. SIMPLE AS THAT!
Post # 3
@Woodstock: 🙁 Big hugs. I don’t have any advice but here’s something that might come in handy:
Post # 4
@Woodstock: I posted quite a similar poast a month or so ago. SLEEP. Have a bath, an early night and put in ear plugs. eye mask. Youll be surprised what a differnce in makes. #You so should totally ignore everyones requests. Im making a programme for mine so step by step people know what to expect, what they’re listening too etc and what the schedule is for afetr ceremony before reception. Its actually my parents and extended family who are worrying the most, all my mates are happy to turn up, celebrate and see waht happens. Hope you feel better soon sweet. It WILL be worth it to do it your way. Don’t let them get you down.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! I vented a little to my Mom, took a long hot shower, and am relaxing for the day. I feel a little better. I’m sure I’ll feel better tomorrow. I hate how this comes in waves. One minute I’m fine, the next I feel like everyone and their mother is complaining.
Post # 6
@Woodstock: Right on, girl!
Post # 7
*Stands up and CHEERS*
I LOVE it when a Bride is comfortable enough in her own skin to KNOW what she wants, willing to ASK FOR IT and DO THE WORK to make it happen, and DEFEND her choices, because… well they ARE HER CHOICES !!
Your Wedding sounds lovely… lol, I’d be “honoured” to be a Guest.
A Bride marrying in her “Home Church” is a wonderful tradition, and you need make no apologies for that (HOME is afterall where your Parents are, family lives, and those are the folks who mean the most at a Wedding)
Don’t worry, the BEST GUESTS aren’t making a big deal… they too will just be pleased to be there… that you thought enough of them to invite them.
Over the years I’ve heard friends and family members “complain” (fidget more really) about an upcoming Catholic Wedding “Gosh I hope it isn’t long…”
It is what it is. It is a Catholic Celebration of Marriage… and YES that means there will be communion mass. Doesn’t mean you have to partake… just means that it happens. Most Churches are well organized, and that element of the service moves along quite quickly. Catholic Marriages are very symbolic, and if you take the time to be a patient and thoughtful Guest and listen, partake, you’ll see that it is a “very emmotional event” for the Bride & Groom
Afterall it is THEIR DAY… you just get to go along for the ride because they VALUE YOUR FRIENDSHIP & SUPPORT… so folks be supportive, for it truly is ALL that a Guest is supposed to do
Post # 8
I totally feel you! i just posted something about 5 minutes ago ranting about my fiance’s family…….he is ready to call off the wedding and go away for a weekend and get married. i want the whole wedding experience but his family is being selfish and immature about our request. we are on a tight budge and can only have a limited amount of people. we told them months ago we were not allowing guest to bring children and we were having a semi formal event (evening wedding). they were excited about it and having a dressy night away from their kids. now that the invites have gone out, we have not heard back from any of them and they are pissed beyond belief we put no children and semi-formal attire only.
Things will be ok! just stick to your guns! we are trying to decide what to do. i don’t feel i should have to not have a wedding but it’s to the point where i don’t even care and they are ruining it for me!! 🙂