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I'm so worry that not enough guest coming..:(

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    cherryblossom515    9/18/09   NJ

    Some people I though they can definitely come are telling me they can't make it.  What should I do if I don't have enough people??!! The wedding is in a month.  There is a min guarantee that I have to meet. I feel like I just wasted my money.  I'm short 15 people :(.  What should I do?! My family keep asking do you have enough people???? It's so embarrassing to tell them no.    

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    BridetoBee2010    October 9th, 2010   Georgia

    Ohhhh noooo!  I'm sorry!  I think it would be okay to call some of those people who haven't RSVP'ed yet and check on their status.  Maybe there are a few people who haven't RSVP'ed but can come.  Or, do you have a B list?  I'm down south, but if I'll come if you need me to! :)

     
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    Tanya123      

    So sorry.  It might seem like wasting money.  But if it's the venue you want, then what can you do?  But don't give up yet.  I agree with trying to call those who haven't responded.

     
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    laurajane    July 25, 2009   Toronto ON

    I agree w/ the others- call (or better yet, have the bridesmaids or groomsmen!) to find out whether outstanding guests are yay or nay... if you're still short, find out if there are any additional guests your 'rents or whomever wanted to include.

    Finally, find out if your minimum is based on a specific # of guests or a spend value. Maybe consider upgrading some things so your minimum dollar value is met (like upgrading your meal choice/upgrading alcohol/desserts, etc.)? 

     
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    northernazbride    August 1, 2009   Arizona

    I agree with laurajane about talking to your venue and seeing if you can upgrade some items to make up for the lack of guests. If not, could you come up with a "B" list of people you could invite?

     
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    LizCailen    08/09/09   Cary, NC

    My wedding is 8/9 and my RSVPs were due last wednesday.  Since then I've had 7 people say they are coming (who I was sure would not attend) and I think there may be more.  I agree with the others, start calling people and see if they are coming or not.  

     
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    MarzipanMrs.    June 2009   New Jersey

    Some people definitely wait til the last minute to respond. Keep trying even though it is annoying! If you don't meet your minimum see if you can use it toward your vendor meals if you haven't accounted for them yet.  Upgrading part of your package would be great, too, if you can.  All venues will negotiate, just call and ask.  Have some suggestions ready for them, like a chocolate fountain, or carving station etc.

     
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    shortcherriez      

    Some people might just show up so keep trying to call those who have not RSVPed. Otherwise pull up your b-list or pass the word on to your friends that they can bring a guest (or two!) if you haven't told them that already.

    Haven't invited kids? Nows the time!

    Forgot any neighbors? Pass them an invitation.

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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    We ran across the same problem.  We were thinking that we would have 75-100 guests and only had 40!  Thankfully the location had a minimum based on price so we added some better appetizers and let people drink whatever they wanted instead of having wine and beer only.  We also invited a lot of people last minute, since we were paying for the food anyway.  Hope you can make it.

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    amysue    6/6/09  

    Definitely see if your venue can upgrade some items to make up for the cost difference!

    I feel you -- we invited 180 and only had 90 come. 

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    Like the others said, I'd check in with the people who haven't yet RSVPed and see if they're coming.  Also, if you didn't give people a "+1", you can always do that now.  I would maybe check in with the venue, too.  I realize they might not be able to change the minimum, but they might be able to upgrade you in a different way to make up the difference. 

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