- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Never thought I’d hear this sentence so much in my life.
I got married Monday, July 15th after dating for 6.5 years! It was beautiful, and we were so happy.
On our wedding day not a lot went our way, it was basically me, Mr. Dahling, and my maid of honor/best man setting up the entire venue site, our cake baker didn’t bake our cake right, and it collapsed into itself, but my maid of honor was so wonderful and built a different cake from our original cake, and put flowers where all the holes were, and put tons of icing on it too. LOL! You could see all the hand shaped markings on the cake where she molded it. But it was fixed with love, and she gave us a cake for our wedding day!
Despite the imperfections though we still got married, we still ate, and had a fabulous time, but there was a nagging feeling, a sadness really the entire day. My mom wasn’t there. She had mestastic breast cancer, and could no longer travel. This was extremely hard because her and I planned so much of the wedding together, and we’ve talked about my wedding day since I was a little girl, so to not have her here….I felt like I missing out. She tried so hard to make it too.
The next day as we were packing up the car to go onto the honeymoon I got a call from my mother’s Hospice nurse who told me my mom took a turn for the worst, and needed to go see her. We put her into Restpit while we were supposed to be honeymooning. We practically flew over to my mom’s care center, but she just wasn’t all that coherent. She didn’t remember that on Monday I got married. That cut me, so badly… After battling with the care center and her Hospice nurse I finally was able to take her home because I was going to be damned if I left her in her hour of need. I’d taken care of her for two years before, her final days were going to be no different.
My estranged family even came back into the picture to pray, and help my mother and I, and early Thursday morning she passed away. So through meeting family I haven’t seen/spoken to in many years, the funeral home, all my mom’s contacts, her places of business all have said “I am sorry your mom passed, but congratulations on getting married!” What a weird statement.
So we haven’t gone on our honeymoon, and probably won’t for awhile, and I can’t even think of consumating our marriage yet (We fell asleep as soon as we got into the hotel on our wedding night) and I feel like I am drowning in all of my mom’s paperwork, bills etc. We’re scrambling to move out of the apartment since we cannot pay it (We lived with my mom) and just so much, so, so, flipping much.
It surely has been bitter sweet, but thought I’d at least update the bee since this place as been a wonderful place to get help, and make friends. Here are some pictures:
These pictures are just from guests, professional ones are coming along. I’ll post a picture of the cake when I get the chance.