I'm sorry, you said what?!?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@soontobesmith87:  -hugs- I’m going to suggest you talk to your BF and tell him that you didn’t mean to issue an ultamatium. Leave it at that.

As for the girl…well opinions are like a**holes…everyone has one. 

Post # 4
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@soontobesmith87:  Why on Earth do you care what some nosy broad you met three days ago, who has absolutely no insight into your relationship, thinks about the situation? I can’t imagine ever taking to heart or getting upset about something someone so insignificant thinks about what’s happening with me and my man. In fact, I’d laugh in her face and advise her to mind her own business, and I would never ever think about her silly comment again. 

Post # 6
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@soontobesmith87:  Ya I understand what you mean, but for real…just laugh to yourself on this one and don’t actually worry about it one little bit. You and your man are on the same page and that is ALL that matters. And yes…if she keeps putting her nose where it dosen’t belong I’d tell her in no uncertain terms to pound sand and get lost. 

Post # 7
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271 posts
Helper bee

Apologise, say you didn’t mean it and how you feel! we all say things when we get carried away.

however, don’t let a stranger influence you! she needs to mind her own business!

Post # 8
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t think you did anything wrong and it seems like you and your BF are on the same page. I really wouldn’t stress about it! Maybe ask your BF if he thought it was an ultimatum and make sure he knows that it wasn’t!

Post # 9
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1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I pretty much gave my boyfriend an ultimatum. I just said ‘I dont want to be screwed around again waiting around for years with no commitment (like my ex did to me) so by such-and-such a time you either shit or get off the pot.’

 

Basically. But I said it a lot nicer. Thank god FH was the understanding type. I know many guys would have walked at that but if they did I would have had my answer!

Post # 10
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849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think you should just ignore what your classmate said. First of all, it’s none of her business. More importantly, it doesn’t sound like you are pressuring your bf at all. I mean, from what you’re saying, he seems just as into it as you. It’s not like your nagging him. Just try and forget about comments like those.

Post # 11
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1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sounds like she’s projecting. Once, I had a brand new acquaintance who suggested that my sweet easygoing fiancé was SOOO CONTROLLING. I think maybe that guy was projecting, because he was way WAY off, like laughably so.

Your situation doesn’t sound like an ultimatum to me, just a fairly typical timeline conversation that lots of couples have.

Post # 12
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I can’t even force my fiance to replace the toilet paper, I don’t think I’d ever have been able to force him to propose to me unless he wanted to.  Relax, he will propose when he is ready and wouldn’t even be having the discussion with you unless it was what he wanted too. 

Post # 13
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

As long as he understands that you asked for the timeline for peace on mind. The classmate is pretty nosey and possibly doessn’t understand boundries!

I hope your proposal happens soon. If he didn’t want to do it, he would run away fast! It’s not like you have him tied up with a gun to his head.

To answer your question: I’m actually having a good waiting week. My SO is always bringing up wedding and housing talks. Plus he is extra super nice/ adorable.

My bad waiting weeks are usually based on snarky remarks about our 8 years (with kids) bf/gf relationship. 

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