I'm starting to get annoyed with people and I still have two more months

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I can imagine that’d be super annoying.  I’m only 13 weeks and I am tired of people asking me, “How are feeling?  Is that baby being nice to you?”  It was nice people asking me that in the very beginning (seeing as I told everyone when I was 6 weeks pregnant), but now, I’m like, “Yes, we’re fine. I’ll tell you if I’m not feeling good.” 

Wow if I’m this irritated now, imagine what I’ll be like at 30 weeks….Lol….oh lordy!

Hang in there, iarebridezilla!

 

Post # 5
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@iarebridezilla:  Hate to break it to you, but it’s probably only gonna get worse.  I’m due in just under a month and I dont think people know how to have a conversation with me about anything other than how horrible I must be feeling.  I’m like you though where I’m a pretty tough girl and I dont like the whole pity party. I put up with it though… 2 1/2 more weeks until I go on leave and don’t have to deal with the annoying questions.  Of course, then when I come back it will probably be the “Oh the baby must keep you up all night” kind of talk.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@iarebridezilla:  vent away. My sister sounds exactly like you. She worked up until the day before she went into labor because she refused for people to think pregnancy was a disorder. All I’ll say is if you really do start to feel bad, just relax and don’t give a f*** what anyone else thinks! 

Post # 8
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@iarebridezilla:  I totally commiserate you you and i am only 17 weeks. I cannot imagine how annoyed I will be by the end.  I am being driven INSANE by people at work talking to me about my pregnancy. Like – I only told you just out of the sheer fact I had to, and suddenly my body, my mood, and how I am feeling is a CENTRAL conversation for everyone multiple times a day. Just because I am expecting does NOT mean I want to talk about it with co-workers – ever. It absolutely also does not mean that now it is suddenly OK for men to talk openly to me about breastfeeding or their wives pregnancies or deliveries – it is personal stuff and it creeps me out. 

I wish you good luck in the last 8 weeks!!!! Hang in there!!!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@iarebridezilla:  You live in Seattle and people are making heat comments? What a bunch of wimps, the weather has been beautiful, and it’s not that freaking hot!!!

Post # 12
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2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yep. Totally get it.

I am 25 weeks and I have felt absolutely amazing through my whole pregnancy. No MS, no real tiredness. I used to ride horses (own 2) and that’s the only thing I’ve stopped doing since finding out we were pregnant, as it is pretty risky. Otherwise, I still walk my dog a daily and just started doing aquafit once or twice a week because i hate sitting on my couch 24/7. My husband and I are active, hike on weekends etc etc.

People keep saying “how are you holding up?”… ummm… well, I’m young, relatively fit, active, feel amazing and YES, doing all of that while growing a human. I think i’m “holding up” better than most!

My in laws had a big bday party for my FIL a few weeks ago. I volunteered to be the bartender so I could keep an eye on those I knew were driving home. Who better to serve alcohol than the girl who can’t drink it!?

Every few minutes someone new would come over and tell me I shouldn’t be on my feet, I shouldn’t be lifting this or that, I should go sit down, I should eat something. I kept saying “no no, I’m fine!!” and at one point pretty sure I said “i’m pregnant, not broken!!!”. One lady (kindly) brought a chair back behind the bar for me which was totally in the way (how am I supposed to bartend sitting down?) and kept coming over telling me to sit. Jesus lady. LET UP! I ended up putting the chair back at it’s table, I didn’t really care if she thought it was rude or whatever. If I say i’m fine, I’m fine. I really did appreciate the care and concern (i really did) but I also wanted them to get the fact that I am a big girl and will listen to my body.  If i feel like i need to sit, I will. If i’m hungry, I know where the food is. Better yet, I’m at my husbands parents house. If i need a bed, chair or anything else for that matter, I can get it myself.

 I was surrounded by people who were in much worse shape than I am and yet for some reason i was the “target” for people to fuss over. I was definitely annoyed. I still do pretty much everything around the house i did before I was pregnant. I’ll lift things that are in my “comfort zone”, do the groceries, continue exercising, working, minding my own business and yet people seem to just assume we are miserable, hot, uncomfortable, agitated, bored, or what have you and need to comment on it.

Again – not trying to sound ungrateful. I know people say / do things because they care and are concerned, I just wish they would stop once we tell them we are doing just fine and can carry on about our usual ways.

Hang in there. Keep responding with how great you feel and maybe they will finally get the hint. Hopefully. :/ HUGS. 🙂 XO

Post # 13
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6644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@iarebridezilla: I know you didnt mean to offend but please remember that children born early can have full lives and do have full lives without health problems. 

Considering my son was 7 weeks early and he has no ill effects other than he is just a small for his age but he will catch up. 

Post # 14
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@iarebridezilla:  Good grief, I work downtown, and live in Mill Creek. Our house is warm, but its not unbearable. And sitting in an office we have AC. When I’m not in the office I’d sit outside all day if I could! And I don’t know anyone that is pregnant that is complaining about a perfect breezy 85!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Just asking, because you use the qualifier twice, are “fat ass” people the only ones who seem to have annoying things to say to you at this point in your pregnancy? Just asking, because I am a fat ass, and I like to look out for potential danger.

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