Post # 1
First there was this…..
E-Pics aka FI is being a stick in the mud
And so, I gave up on my dream of awesome wedding photos at our alma mater. *tear* I arranged epics with our wedding photogs (upstate in Albany) since it ended up being included in the package anyways (yay).
Last night I was talking to FI about how our session is in June… I told him we needed to pick a location. Here’s the thing, FI and I have 0 attachment to upstate. I mean, it’s where I was raised, but we, as a couple, don’t have any memories there. And so, I said we should just have them pick the location for us. I joked that we could have them at my parent’s house.
He looked at me and was like yea that’s a good idea. I mean nothing upstate has any meaning to me. At least your house does since we spend summers there and holidays, etc. Hmmm, we really should have gotten them done at our school, that would have been great.
No. What? Seriously….
Post # 3
AUUUGHHH! Why do they do this? I can’t believe it! Is it too late to get them done at the school?? I feel like all my FI does is say no to whatever I come up with because the wedding is my hometown instead of his (which he agreed to in the first place and we live abroad – nevermind long story). Then, I’m like, what do you want to do – does he have any ideas? NO! Why don’t they just say yes like they love the idea?? haha
Post # 4
My FI is like that sometimes ( just likes to be a pain in the a** just cause he can). I understand why you would want to go to your alma mater, but I honestly don’t think it is important. When we got our e-pics we did some in the studio and some outside at a park that we had never been together. But the pics came out great, part of the photographers job is to be creative. I think you shouldn’t stress out about where exactly the photos are taken. Maybe try and find some pics for the time you spent together and make a collage of pics of the two of you to display at the wedding. Or make a slide show to play.
Post # 5
I think you have to talk to men as if they are always making a final decision. I preface every decision we make with, “We can not change our minds after this. It is very important to think before you answer. This is the last time we can make a decision.” Then after he answers I say “Final Answer?” Just to solidify there is no changing our minds. It is ridiculous, but it has managed to stop some of my frustrations with him regarding this topic.
Post # 6
@crystlrox: Hahhaa yes. Whenever he vetos something I just look at him and say, “ok I understand that you don’t like my idea, what were you thinking of doing instead?” The response is usually “I don’t know”…. Unfortunately our photogs won’t be able to travel to us now because they’re totally booked up… If we had made this decision 4 months ago when I asked him, we would have been able to find time. FI was talking about hiring a photog to just do a 1 hr photo shoot at the school, but all I see is $$.
@futurebauer: Yup, in the grand scheme of things it totally doesn’t matter, but it’s one of those things…. I had this great idea, he vetos it, and 4 months later when it’s too late he reaches an epiphany.
Post # 7
@mwitter80: Hahaha, yea I might have to start doing that with him… He is a really indecisive person / procrastinator in general so I don’t blame him that he wasn’t thinking about epic locations until a few weeks before we’re scheduled to go.